I’m already getting reports that posts are being blocked in places for breaking “X’s security policies,” and yet, I’ve received no email, and as far as I can tell, no marks against me.
Strange.
Anyways…
If that’s going to be the case then I’ll just repost everything here (which I was planning to do in a better blog post regardless).
I want to ask though, what about my security? What about Maus security, like, say, his job security? What about everyone else who ‘cross’ her due to their childish self-loathing, what about their security?
From my perspective, the only people who seem to ever ‘deserve’ security, privacy, and ‘dignity’ are Liana Kerzner and her gaggle of mean girl cronies. Yeah, I said that. Given the screenshots below, you’ll see that I’m only mimicking the language used in her not-very-private Discord server.
I’m not the only one, where I live, that will agree with this judgment.
Liana Kerzner exudes an aura (via “boundary” enforcement) that repeatedly positions her, and whoever else, as important people worthy of special considerations, and everyone else, particularly the allegedly transphobic, misogynist, and *gasp* impulsive (Liana-speak for ‘not socially acceptable’), “broken nobodies” (thanks Audrey Crawford, not Liana, wife of Saige Alexis; vividfaegarden.com) are unaffected disposables that, well, don’t really matter, mostly because they don’t really understand themselves, whereas Liana sees “into their minds.”
Sounds awfully close to a narcissistic guru cult.
Liana Kerzner doesn’t have special insight anymore than I have special insight.
This is the reality, which, as we’ll see, isn’t the one Liana decides is the reality.
The Twitter Thread
Transcript
Asher Wolfstein @asherwolfstein writes on Twitter:
As people sometimes do… I’m going to make a thread on this abandoned platform.
Liana Kerzner likes to make a lot of sweeping claims about my intentions, motivations, and psychological complexes, as well [as] things I’m doing that I can’t even actually do. (Twitter)
And after she does so, in multiple instances, she then returns to a repeated refrain, “It doesn’t make sense.” (Twitter)
To which, I’ve replied, in my own space, repeatedly, that it doesn’t make sense because it’s not true.
THAT makes a lot more sense than the idea that Liana can magically ‘see’ into the minds of her haters. (Timestamped) (Twitter)
What doesn’t make sense to me… (Twitter)
Is why Liana assumes to know, so definitively, what things have been ‘leaked’ to me, even then, and what things haven’t.
Her thoughts, hunches, theories, and emotions do not an objective reality make. (Twitter)
The reason Liana Kerzner is baffled is because she believes herself to be so certain that reality, including the interior reality of other people, is exactly as she decides it is. But, that’s not the reality that is. (Twitter)
I, specifically, wasn’t reacting to screenshots that could be faked.
I already knew the screenshots were not faked, even then.
I was reacting to the screenshots being posted publicly.
You’ll note these are not those. (Twitter)
Maus alluded to the fact we already knew these were real, but, that would be another case of his mythomania wouldn’t it? His lying ALL the time, so much so Liana seemingly expected me to be floored and shocked at what she ‘revealed,’ about… every irrelevant detail in our lives. (Twitter)
But, unlike the reality Liana unilaterally decides exists, I already knew about all of the *factual* parts. [What] I wasn’t aware of was how far Liana was willing to go in spinning every detail, and falsehood, with her alleged *real* thoughts all along. I wish she’d just said them. (Twitter)
Like I did.
To which, Liana acknowledged her reticence to believe me “the first time,” citing Maya Angelou like she learned something about being “too good,” and then promptly forgot about it (re: Vagabond) (Twitter)
Then, she conflates her not believing me with my immoral behavior (according to her), they become one and the same, and now, it’s effectively *my* fault she didn’t believe me when I told her exactly who I was. (Twitter)
When I said, in person, in the kitchen, at PAX, that I would do all of this, that I do all of this when someone lies about me and maligns me falsely in public.
She *should’ve* known, been fully aware, of everything I was going to do, but… you know… she *really* knows. (Twitter)
But… she doesn’t say her *real* thoughts she has the whole time, apparently, until she decides to promptly end the relationship with a video misrepresenting [the situation], and in at least one instance, lying, and then they all come out in a veritable indirect smear campaign. (Twitter)
Liana is so insightful, that, her directly targeting my husband’s humble employment that supports both of us (I’m legally disabled) via what she is sure is reality is just… concern? “Drama”? (Twitter)
But, this is not actually reality. This is no surprise or mystery to me! And it’s not because I sent it (I didn’t), but because large swaths of that letter had already been published.
I have the records. (Twitter)
And so, the ever-present triangulating impersonator I’ve been warning people about for months simply copy-pasted, again, and sends it off *anonymously* to Liana who’s willing to believe it because… it “comes from a place of guilt”…? (Twitter)
Hello! Throughout this entire thing, have I acted like I’m coming from a place of guilt?1
As Aileyn would say, “Geebus…”
The only person in this situation putting anyone’s job at risk is Liana Kerzner’s fabricated insight that she just fucking *REALLY* knows… (Twitter)
…and, come on, are we really about to hammer on ‘unintentionally’ after another stream of cat pics and videos? Really? Can we not?
Liana’s consistent metric, whenever it’s anyone else, is impact. Landing. She doesn’t *care* WHY you do anything. [ED: SHE says this, repeatedly!] Your intentions don’t matter. (Twitter)
It all amounts to her ‘audience’ as… “drama.” It’s always this ‘unnecessary’ ‘ego-ridden’ shameful petty “drama” when, well, when it’s anyone else’s grievance besides Liana’s.
But, it isn’t everyone else. Remember what she wrote? (Twitter)
[ED: What Liana leaves out, somewhat understandably, is that I have a tendency of mimicking the language used by my abusers in the hopes it will make equal sense to people listening to them, or even the abuser themselves. And so, the only reason ‘we’ ever said it was an assassination of character was because Liana had described our reactions as a purposeful character assassination. Also, it’s not about her intent. *I* equally don’t care about her intent now either. It’s about her impact. Notice that’s not what she’s denying.]
This *would* be true, if Liana’s hunches, brilliant insight, ‘theories,’ and so on were reality itself. But it isn’t true, because ‘screenshots’ have been being leaked to me by people who don’t like her behavior since the beginning.
As I wrote, I already knew those existed. (Twitter)
For someone with an alleged “unacceptable lack of impulse control,” which is Liana’s code for “not making the decisions any ‘reasonable’ person worried about their position in society and how they look would make” (normativity much?), I’ve had these the *entire* time. (Twitter)
[ED: I can confidently translate the former sentence into the latter. Every single time she describes me, or what is arguably me, or what is arguably me-adjacent, as lacking impulse control, it’s always in relation to something I wanted to do, thought about it, decided to do, and don’t regret to this day, which matters a great deal. The definition of ‘impulse control’ she seems to rely on is a highly narrow (mis)interpretation of the interviewee’s discussion of the concept in the episode I’m featured in, and it is entirely based on what *other* people would reasonably do, which… is a very very bizarre perspective.]
These screenshots, only a fraction of many, show that Liana actually *does* use my name in her ‘private’ Discord, which, no, it’s not.
*I’m* not personally a member, because I don’t do that. But, the fact this is posted by some alleged rando troll… (Twitter) (Embedded Tweet)
[ED: Why are we comparing, in order to trivialize, someone else’s trauma? Like, why? AND, on top of that, I will note, again, that what Liana says here (the “stupid thing about that one” isn’t accurate! This isn’t “the TRUTH.” It’s just “the TRUTH” as Liana Kerzner, mental health advocate and peer counselor, decided it to be. Liana, by the way, was the only other person in my entire life outside of my husband and mother, that’s been told about this experience… and here it is, blasted by a troll to everyone. I cannot implore the reader eough to really, really, really… Think. About. That. And no, I will not explain further given everything that’s happened. Being a ‘lolcow’ who overexplains for clicks is not why I’m here, so fuck off.]
It, just, doesn’t seem [too] private to me.
Or others.
And that’s because, it isn’t, really. She has an invite link, sure, but $1 gets you in. That’s a pseudo-public paid space, like an interminable public ‘event’ you could say. (Twitter)
So, as proof that it’s not nearly as “private” as she claims, here are some screenshots where Liana pieces together everything, indicating who I am by name [ED: Yes, my REAL NAME, that I use online, not a screen name.] and that we *are* The Gruesome Twosome, and that… (Twitter)
her paying core audience *can* reasonably ‘follow along’ with the plot-like continuity (context) that emerges in her videos [ED: and radio episodes] as to who, exactly, these people are. They are able to use the much maligned faculty of inference that Liana also enjoys, (Twitter) (Embedded Link)
and which she, and her lawyer, attempt to deny anyone else, as if they could.
Of course, if *you* decide reality, that would make sense.
Fortunately, for everyone, including Liana, her intentions, hunches, theories, and ‘insight’ do not an objective reality make. (Twitter)
(Twitter) [ED: Aileyn… are you serious? Oh no! You disagree about who the best Doctor is! Give me a break. And yeah, I’m mocking… as much as her Discord server mocks her victims.]
It’s been very obvious to me that Bobby [Calloway] is happy to be a flying monkey… except, of course, when Liana has to give him a boost after someone points out he participated in making fun of an invisible disability. (Twitter)
At the beginning of this, [Liana] has one of her ‘insights’ that none of us have friends, which, frankly is a bizarre thing to assert for an adult. So bizarre, no refutation is necessary. (Twitter)
[ED: Note the sentence, “That’s the online mind fuck though, right? If no one defends you, it proves you’re guilty. …”]
And then, in the same digital ‘breath,’ she calls my husband a narcissistic asshole.
Uh… he’s not the one telling people you’ve never had friends, but okay… (Twitter)
Aileyn repeats the psychological narrative, and the idea that this conflict is our entire world, that Liana has taken care to firmly reinforce and establish so that no one defends us (see above screenshot, she knows what she’s doing) (Twitter)
[ED: I CANNOT COMPREHEND WHAT MY ACTIVITIES AND FAILURES HAVE TO DO WITH MY HUSBAND’S CAPABILITIES AND EMPLOYMENT STATUS. I CANNOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH! WE ARE NOT THE SAME PERSON… UNLESS WE’RE NOT PEOPLE, JUST LABELS.]
The idea that our entire world spins out (a detail, I might remind others, our local, real-life stalker of the dangerous variety parroted on his, I believe, short-lived BlueSky, link below on the parallels) because one person rejects us, (Twitter) (Embedded Link)
[ED: It’s never, ever been about Liana ‘rejecting’ us. It’s always been about Liana’s actions, as detailed at the end. Narrative abuse, and narcissism, must project the concept that it’s about ‘rejection’ so that all actions can be diminished as petty and immature (disappointment is part of growing up). Do these people REALLY think a 42-year-old man who’s been put through life’s ringer, or his husband from a third-world country, hasn’t had to deal with disappointment? The levels of self-importance are extremely disturbing, especially for a ‘mental health’ centered community. Group therapy sure looks different these days…]
a red-headed famous woman mind you because, as Liana asserts, that’s extremely important to these gay boys for some bizarre reason… (Twitter) (Embedded Link)
Is… definitely not narcissistic. I said it before, and I’ll say it again. Just because it doesn’t show up on the Internet
Doesn’t mean it isn’t fucking happening.
I digress… (Twitter)
[ED: Note that Christie Brown’s (a close associate of Jessica’s, being Poppy Diabolique) comment was made way before Poppy’s (Zena’s irrelevant) public blocking of Liana, her biggest advocate, beginning November 2025. And, just food for thought, note that Christie Brown relates that it’s “a rinse and repeat [of] the whole thing with Z+P (Poppy, and Zena… I guess)]
By the way, I’m not sure if anyone noticed, but the trans woman Liana took care to defend in her situation where she was claiming a lack of consent and violation because, as I understand it from the episode, someone else was her “favorite person” and knew about it… (Twitter)
Blocked Liana on BlueSky in November of 2025. (Twitter)
Do note the sentence “The reason there hasn’t been some huge dump of screenshots of me dehumanizing people is precisely because I think that honoring my own worth means treating even the biggest asshole in the planet like they are a person.” (Twitter)
I have expressed, repeatedly, over the last 16 months that I have not felt like I’m actually considered a person by any of these people, so… “seems convenient.” (Twitter)
And, oh, look a “tie in,” as if, maybe it IS a plot-like continuity that audience members tune [into] every week.
And oh look, that same trans woman.
Huh. (Twitter)
I have determined that Song is, indeed, correct. It is not private. And much of this, and that post by that random troll, demonstrates it really isn’t.
There are many others who would agree, at least, where I live. (Twitter)
Besmirch it all you want, but, it doesn’t make it not where I live.
Also, I’ve never actively left out her apology, not even back then. In fact, it’s been published on my website for months now (though, of course, this is way earlier). (Twitter)
[ED: I truly don’t understand her comments here. What she’s describing is *very* typical for people to think and enforce. Extremely typical. And I should know because that’s *not* how I see it, and that’s how I *act* consistently my entire life, so “you can imagine” all the pushback I’ve gotten from *a lot of very typical people.* Liana Kerzner, in my opinion, likes to adopt the term “neurodivergent,” simply because she has a perspective that is getting pushback, which, isn’t “neurodivergent,” it’s just pushback. For more information on the how and why I can “rationalize” that, if you insist on seeing it that way, see the end. I’ve written specifically about this over and over. You could consider it part of my ‘platform’ at this point. It’s not a mystery, and, obviously, I don’t think I’m wrong. I do not see it as a ‘necessary evil,’ to feel guilty over. I do not see it as something to be justified because it’s wrong. I see it as fair, and I act consistently on that, not once paying lip service to the imposed framework.]
And, there’s my real, first name, in screenshots leaked to me.
Liana’s thoughts and subsequent “false confidence,” consistently aren’t the actual reality at work.
The actual reality is one she doesn’t fully tell you. (Twitter)
[ED: Asher, my real-life *given* name, is in the same sentence as The Gruesome Twosome. Facts. Reminder that, to some extent (the context of this, to her knowledge she consistently decides is fact), Liana denied this to be the case.]
(Twitter)
Liana Kerzner here is insisting the moral ‘truth’ she *really* knows about me, and everyone I guess, is supposed to continue to impose itself upon my behavior after she isn’t in my life anymore.
Normative, uh, what was that word, started with an ‘n’… much? (Twitter)
As evidenced in this post, it IS a lifetime service. And if she’d like a refund of everything she ever paid Original Pursuits LLC, she’s welcome to it. She can contact Maus, not me. Never me again. (Twitter) (Embedded Link)
(Twitter) [ED: Here, Liana makes fun of Maus‘ pop culture references, despite the fact that, in fandom circles, referencing pop culture characters in conflicts, especially ones that people feel deeply aligned, or resonate, with, is fairly common. In fact, Liana often compares people and situations to pop culture characters and stories, often as a means of connecting with her audience. So, I guess… she’s making fun of herself here too? I’ve observed in Liana’s fan club, the second Liana judges any behavior, she’s immediately exempt from the same measure… which is repeatedly reinforced, subtly, in her own ‘content’ as outlined in my media critique.]
Ackshually… no, as this screenshot from her wet noodle mod shows, the situation was actually [the] opposite. I’m being socially castigated for being capable and having solid arguments. (Twitter)
[ED: Here, I’m replying to Kooubou’s notion that we ‘ganged up on others.’ I’m sure somebody probably felt that way at some point, but, just because Maus says something in addition to myself, as I’ll be writing in the future, it does not constitute a ‘gang up.’ My own adopted-brother described Maus asking ONE question in a discussion between me and my adopted-brother as a ‘gang up’ so… this isn’t new, and it isn’t accurate. It’s people’s impressions.]
(Twitter)
Liana. I’ll say this personally, one time.
Classic, manic deranged Asher thread style, (Twitter)
You decided that you could end the conflict on your end, and that somehow that ends the conflict unilaterally. It doesn’t. That’s not reality. I do not have to “walk away,” from the conflict, never mentioning it again because of your desires. (Twitter)
Not how it has ever worked.
This is not reality. It is a comfortable fantasy, where only your intentions and desires exist[.] (Twitter) (Embedded Link)
This is the reality: If you had just faced the conflict head on, straightforward and honestly, addressed me and my continued grievance as an actual non-disposable human being, like you claim you do, (Twitter)
as opposed to a nameless (pointedly!) “buzzsaw of lunacy,” all of this would’ve been settled in less than a week, maybe two. Done.
But you *don’t* have the argument. You *don’t* resolve the conflict. You *don’t* address jack shit head on. (Twitter)
You deflect, divert, manufacture narratives, speak indirectly to an audience who *spreads his arms out* clearly knows exactly who you’re talking about, and plain project shit out, yes, project, because (Twitter)
no, I’ve never, ever seen another woman as a mommy proxy who I want to powder [my] bottom and say good baby. [ED: I’m quoting Liana.]
This is a weird-as-fuck straight girl Gen X power fantasy my dear. It’s creepy, and beyond that, maladaptive. (Twitter)
And you’ve finally met the immovable post that isn’t going to “let you” do that. Who isn’t going to take that abuse for the cohesion of society, or the emotional safety of others, because… (Twitter)
What about MY emotional safety? If I do that, it will ALWAYS come last, if at all, clearly. So I gotta do it for myself.
All of your “public” behavior (that you should not be distinguishing from your Discord, but, you do) is a front.
A big front. (Twitter)
I don’t know if you do it intentionally, or if you don’t, but the end result is the same: dehumanization of individuals, close friends even (or former), so that they have no where to go, no one to defend them, (Twitter)
and, as Aileyn points out, allegedly no one to listen to them for themselves. Great Internet mindfuck… uh… eh? Instead, everyone is to run to you, and your honest, integrity display, to interpret and explain everything about your victim, yes, victim, to them. (Twitter)
That’s straight up narrative abuse against the very type of people you claim to support through your ‘journalism,’ which… doesn’t work either by the way, because of this. (Twitter)
You do it all the time. Avoidant as fuck narrative abuse is your conflict resolution when the stakes get too high for your low-bandwidth capacities. (Twitter)
I’ll put it in terms I hope you can finally understand:
You don’t have the right to tell other people’s stories for them, let alone their interior lives you can never *really* know, for everyone, including your sycophantic mean girl Discord clique, to laugh at. (Twitter)
If you want less cruelty, try being. less. cruel.
My ‘gift’ to you, because, if what you ‘gave me’ ([my] ‘dignity’ apparently) was a ‘gift’, well, then, so’s mine, was months of [taking] abuse so that maybe, maybe, you’d do something different concerning your friends of 5 years. (Twitter)
But you didn’t. You did everything you could to double-down on the above.
Folks, Liana Kerzner has lied to you for 16 months.
And what Liana Kerzner doesn’t tell you, will hurt you. (Twitter)
Watch as the ‘non-minions’ scramble to be deemed ‘minions.’ (Twitter)
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(Twitter) [ED: Aileyn: “God forbid you have friends. Again, they can’t relate to the experience.” *shakes head* what the fuck Aileyn. Who do you think you are? I know what you are: a grown-ass woman overreaching her fucking high school mean girl attitude. I mean, I know I said no refutations necessary, but I’ll say this… how did I get all of this if I have no “friends”?]
Still. Live. In. America.
You can turn your nose up and besmirch it [all] you want, but that doesn’t change any facts. I guess, next time, don’t fuck over a United States Citizen you can’t bully effectively with your famous lawyer? (Twitter)
(Twitter) [ED: I’m not “allowed” to say anything, by the way, particularly not by these people, or by Ms. Anti-Authoritarian Audrey Crawford. These people, as in Liana, Audrey, Saige, Jessica, Annie, are constantly debating what’s “allowed” and “not allowed,” and for what? It accomplishes nothing but social policing and abusive control.]
(Twitter)
You’re not everyone’s parent Aileyn. Shocking, I know. We’re looking to neither you, nor Liana, to be our “mommy proxies.” Keep your fantasies to your erotic role play chats, thanks. (Twitter)
We don’t have ‘alt’ accounts that are clearly not us. I don’t use an ‘alt’ account that is not a name of one of my projects. There is no mystery. But, it would be handy if there was if, you know, I needed to seem like I was sending Charlie Kirk death threats (which, I didn’t). (Twitter)
Aileyn, you aren’t the freakin’ school counselor either. “Geebus” and Kooubou, I know you’re not saying this, but given the tone of the convo… [your] experience, and the others’, is not the standard of everyone. (Twitter)
Maus and I have met and befriended far more famous people than Liana. [ED: I never cared about Liana’s “fame.” I just cared about her as a person. I didn’t even watch her videos, because I find them very tedious, even then. And that, I guess, isn’t a value judgment, right?]
Also, we weren’t being ‘clever.’ I understandably didn’t want Liana, specifically, to continue to have access to that chat. I also have records. I’m confident [I have] magnitudes more. Just like I’ve always said. (Twitter)
- Don’t have to name us, clearly.
- Good to now that what we’ve said about you, which, is all true, makes it fair, somehow… so then, yeah, considering what you said about us, about me?
Make it make sense! (Twitter)
Also, no, you did NOT go to us to talk it out, not regarding the video. The video was a complete and total surprise to me. I had no idea. I thought we WERE going to talk it out the next week. I’ve written this repeatedly, you know, those lies we keep telling ourselves? (Twitter)
Again.
You. Don’t. Matter. If you’re not one of the chosen, the beautiful, the *followed.* (Twitter)
I really don’t know who you guys really think you are.
Liana. Where in any time with us did you *ever* think that we were socialized White either? You’ve seen me use a fork and knife! Maus is not White. You’ve seen me, time and again, offend somebody, somewhere… (Twitter)
For a “not socialized White person” YOU, Liana, are more socialized, classier, and [better] positioned than I’ll likely ever be. What the fuck is this shit? (Twitter)
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You, frankly, are all horrible ring worms. (Twitter)
I wrote way back that it seemed like Poppy [licensed therapist with a Master’s in #Counseling Jessica Routhier] was “allergic” to honest and authentic discussion.
I hadn’t realized just how far deep it ran.
It runs so fucking deep.
Just. Be. Honest. And. Direct. Please.
Like me? Maybe? Possibly?
I don’t know why I’m writing this. (Twitter)
I guess for the future people Liana won’t tell who she is [to], because it’s over between us. (Twitter)
I don’t really want nor need her, or anyone else involved, to do anything, as I’ve written over and over and over and over since “game over” and extensively on my blog, where I’ve dedicated my entire existence to the long-winded rant. (Twitter)
It was *never* for your benefit Liana. You know this. I expressed this to you. You said I wasn’t your “lapdog.” I don’t know why you go back on this now. (Twitter)
[ED: Again, Liana hasn’t “let” anything run. I no longer believe a thing Liana says, and so, in my estimate, I no longer believe that “the person,” being Stalker-Chan, being Emily Schooley, which Liana *proactively* told me upon first chatting with her online because my husband was friends with her, is nearly as dangerous a stalker (since, well, *I’m* a “stalker” and I know I’m not dangerous, so…) as she led me to believe. That’s what happens when you’re not truthful. Contrary to popular opinion, dishonesty like this is *never* in your best self-interest long-term. I’ve known this since I was a young child, thanks to my father. What the hell am I supposed to believe? So, yeah, no, Liana didn’t “let” anything happen. Liana Kerzner doesn’t control the universe. And no, I didn’t “let” screenshots fall into anyone’s hands other than publishing them because they are relevant to my situation, after irrelevant private, intimate details of my life were made fully public for no legitimate reason. I’m confident others where I live will agree (some already have).]
It was [for] *MY* benefit, because of Giancarlo, TTT (allegedly Emily), and Emily herself’s [sic] allusions, calling me a “child molester.” Like, it was clear. I ran this very thing by you. You agreed. I have the transcripts and screenshots. (Twitter)
WHY in the world would someone who runs around constantly touting their best self-interest-based morality ever be altruistic like that?
Why would that make any sense?
Because you *REALLY* know better? (Twitter)
No.
You.
Don’t.
(Twitter)
Sidenote: Liana complains about the ‘hypocrisy’ of equally retaliatory actions, and how engaging in such nullifies due to everyone being ‘just as bad.’
I’ve come to realize, “you’re just as bad,” as abuser-speak. [ED: It effectively ‘ties your hands’ to do what was JUST done to you. It’s meant to strip the victim of all legitimacy, while still affording legitimacy, to a degree, on what’s already been done and can’t be undone. Essentially, they ‘get away with it,’ as the past can’t be erased, and then, you don’t. It’s asymmetrical morality.] And, it’s easy to understand the “rationalizaton.” (Twitter)
I’ve said it, over, and over, and over. But, I’ll say it one. more. time.
I do not follow nor subscribe to the same morality Liana does when she says things like this. *She* may judge it that way, but *I* don’t. Like, really, really, nowhere near it, don’t. (Twitter)
If *I* don’t go by the same standard… how the hell can I be a hypocrite about something I don’t believe?
It’s on my blog, reprinted here. I do not care if you get “confused by the long convo.” Not my problem. Read it again then. (Twitter)
One thing I live by, and that Liana also encourages, is “you train people on how to treat you,” which is absolutely ghastly phrasing.
I don’t use that wording, or even that perspective. (Twitter)
I come from the inverse perspective on the same principle, and with great warning, informing people early that I will treat them in the same spirit that they treat me[.]
[ED: And I constantly say, there are NO EXCEPTIONS, but fucking “main characters” ALWAYS think they’re the exception.]
You may disagree with this approach, saying it doesn’t promote a ‘better environment,’ and that’s fine. (Twitter)
I disagree.
Before you choose to commit to a critique, you should be aware that creating a ‘better environment’ in that sense, the greater good sense, is not what drives me. (Twitter)
This will help you avoid inserting inaccurate moral frameworks and motivations as backdrops to your explanations of my behavior, as Liana has done, even though she’s acknowledged I told her all of this from the beginning.
It is not my motivation. (Twitter)
Unlike Liana, I’m not intending to present myself as a mental health advocate, nor pretending to be one [ED: explicitly expressed a long time ago, I’m not an advocate of anything] and as Liana has stressed in multiple YouTube videos, intentions do matter. (Twitter)
If you compartmentalize me into that role, don’t expect me to fill the role out of consideration for your clicks.
I won’t. (Twitter)
Others should take note, once again, that I’m not sitting around binding myself to standards no one who is trying to hurt me is going to hold themselves to, and I don’t see this as hypocrisy or a ‘necessary evil.’
I don’t see it as evil at all.
I see it as fair. (Twitter)
The fact is, Liana made ALL of this public by going on camera and divulging, with inaccuracies and falsehoods, the professionally irrelevant details of my personal life, her team member’s intimate relationship, and blamed her failures on those things without consulting us first. (Twitter)
It does not matter if she explicitly named us. That’s not how this will shake out. At least, not legally, not here. You can agree with her on the ‘naming’ thing, but I’ve now gone to great lengths to show, *names are not necessary.*
It’s called indexical targeting. (Twitter)
And so, since this sensitive information (and subsequently, more of it) went public in a decidedly hurtful way, then, there was NO reason for us to EVER talk to her privately again, as she at first suggested was the more mature option. (Twitter)
From that point on, that violation I *never* consented to on, that busting of a boundary on, I have regarded the situation as one that [the] public must apparently decide. That’s how this works, right? Otherwise…
Why make it public? (Twitter)
- Of course, yes, it does look like it comes from a place of guilt if you interpret every single one of my actions through a passive-aggressive double-speak lens that allegedly most people operate under and decide that, contrary to my expression, you really know what’s going on behind it. Could. People. Just. Stop? Therapists and doctors alike, throughout my treatment, have struggled to follow my explanations of my actions (at times), though, they eventually all agree it makes sense, it’s just not what they’d initially think. All of them.
You think that your amateur armchair-psychologist ass is going to just happen to get it right on the first spin?
What would you call someone who actually believes that?
Suffice it to say, I am not operating from a place of guilt. ↩︎