You have helped bolster and reinforce Liana’s narrative, even about yourself, for the past ten years. Your “right actions” have made it ever more difficult for anyone to criticize Liana or point out the things she actually does, because you think it benefits you. Your “dignity” has only protected Liana, providing the counterintuitive shield of ‘crazy’ someone like Liana can reasonably dismiss so that whatever she’s doing is overlooked in contrast. You have helped your alleged abuser, intentionally or not, at every “humorous” self-congratulating turn, making it fairly easy to impersonate you if deemed convincing.
You are “safe.” The cozy foil that provides the convenient victimhood but without ever posing any (non-violent non-criminal) threat to your counterpart or her community. You’re only ever relevant when it’s most convenient for you to be relevant, playing the role you think brings you the most attention and sympathy. Does that sound familiar?
And who is the judge of this “right action”? Liana? Society? The very same rules she uses against you and others? So, you play the game instead of stepping out of it?
You are not a “dark empath,” or whatever pseudo-spiritual psycho-nonsense is trendy these days.
You are a puppet.