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Over the last 5 years… FIVE YEARS… @redlianak.bsky.social had *lots* of opportunities to begin a dialogue with me focused on how she felt uncomfortable or even disapproved of what I was doing, or how I treated people.
2025-05-24 00:22:01.088 / 3lpuuu3mg2s2t
I talked to her every day over Telegram when we weren't physically together (which also happened a couple times for extended periods of time).
2025-05-24 00:22:01.089 / 3lpuuu477ms2t
Any one of those days, during any one of my confrontations on Twitter, or elsewhere, or after (or in between) she could've typed, "I would like to discuss what you're doing and how it's affecting me," or even, "We need to talk about something important between us."
2025-05-24 00:22:01.090 / 3lpuuu477mt2t
If she's saying she did tell me, but I didn't hear it because "so many words?" or because I was distracted or full of myself? That's false.
We rarely if *ever* talked in real-time with our voices. 90% of our communication was text based.
2025-05-24 00:22:01.091 / 3lpuuu47am32t
I don't remember not because I "didn't hear it" (which makes sense), but because *it didn't happen.*
I've looked for where it happened.
It didn't happen in an obvious enough way (and I listen!) that I would've ever reasonably guessed that.
2025-05-24 00:22:01.092 / 3lpuuu47am42t
I use a lot of words, obviously, but I can also *not* do that too. Whether I do, or I don't, has nothing to do with me listening. I listen carefully. Using a lot of words != not listening.
2025-05-24 00:22:01.093 / 3lpuuu47am52t
I listen and ponder every single word anyone has *ever* said to me. How do you think I remember them all? I'm constantly contemplating words people have said to me.
2025-05-24 00:22:01.094 / 3lpuuu47blf2t
She didn't tell me. When there was a break or a lull, she could've then. She chose not to. She made *no effort* to confront me as far as I can remember about anything. No sign, no suggestion, no hint, nothing, at least, not directly to me.
2025-05-24 00:22:01.095 / 3lpuuu47blg2t
Any potential narrative or story that "I just didn't hear it," is false. I'll back that up, too.
Being an introvert doesn't give you an excuse to be an asshole and commit the exact same sins (or their reversals) as extroverts do. It's not another social construct to use as a shield.
2025-05-24 00:22:01.096 / 3lpuuu47blh2t
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