I’ve been posting memes that make light of it all, but underlying that humor is something very real and very serious.
Liana Kerzner may be the butt of a joke because they make themselves out to be so ridiculous, which, I surmise is on purpose. But even if their behavior and words are ridiculous, and should be seen that way, the effects they have are very real, which is something I pointed out first and they later copied. That itself may seem ridiculous and…
Maybe.
Maybe it is. However, I notice when I say something, anything, it’s ridiculous, stupid, terrible, and delusional, but when Kerzner says the same thing (almost exactly at times), it’s the opposite of all that: rational.
It was rational when I said it too!
Whenever I make myself out to be *like* or *similar* to Liana Kerzner, our words, outlook, or actions, it is *not* a plea that, oh, look, we’re the same, so they’re bad because I’m bad because…
*SMACK*
Snap the fuck out of it!
The only person who was EVER worried about *looking* like a “bad person” was Liana Kerzner in this entire affair.
THIS IS SO FUCKING OBVIOUS I BANG MY HEAD AGAINST THE WALL AT THOSE WHO DISBELIEVE IT.
You think I’m posting thinking, “Oh, everyone’s gonna love this! This li’l truth bomb will totally get everyone to think I’m good and loving and amazing!”
Uh… no. Maybe you do, but I don’t.
I make us out to be similar so that one might hopefully see, if all things are equal, WHY Liana is seen as honest, reasonable, rational, and possessing integrity, whereas I’m seen as deceitful, unreasonable, irrational, and having no solid character whatsoever.
If our words, perspective, arguments, and presentation are the same (partly because they steal mine), then…
What’s left is the reason why.
And nothing that would be constructive to judge is left, and it’s ugly.
The facts of the matter are that Liana Kerzner did something very wrong, no matter how ridiculous they might endeavor to make it look. What Liana did was injurious, not only to me, but to several others. All that’s different in my case is that, for better or for worse, and imparting zero implied judgment on anyone else, I didn’t tuck tail and run away, OR play along with the game making sure I didn’t look TOO bad.
TOO bad to who, Emily Schooley? Liana Kerzner?
With how you’ve (Emily) treated me, and how you’ve aligned yourself with presumably Liana Kerzner’s sock puppet like an idiot (or… are you?), you deserve to be hounded and haunted by Liana Kerzner for as long as you continue to play the game.
You two deserve each other.
For the rest of us, the time has come that shit like this in so many spaces, but particularly in insular fandom-geek-queer spaces, stops.
I’m serious. Not mitigated. Not made aware of. Not called out. Not managed, discussed, nuanced, ratified, movement against-ed, all streamed for our viewing pleasure.
No.
Stopped.
And, it can be. I know it can be. I’ve *proven* it can be. None of this is conjecture at this point.
The Liana Kerzner‘s in our spaces *don’t* belong here. I mean, many of us have been silently pushed out by them, so, that’s how it works right? They simply *don’t* and that’s okay.
It’s *absolutely okay* to treat other people like they treat you. That’s how the scales turn even. They *do not care* about playing by any set of rules, ever, but *you do,* and that’s what *they want you to do.* This isn’t some Randian up-in-the-air pie-in-the-sky ideal-world delusion. This is reality.
In all of this, *I proved this empirically,* at least, as much as one might do.
This kind of turn isn’t about revenge, vengeance, or destroying anything.
That’s treating them more than how they treated you.
It’s not license to be *worse.* It’s license to say, “Okay, well, they are lying about me, so, I’m perfectly in my right to reveal the truth even if it was in a private moment,” because they *obviously* don’t give a shit about your life’s integrity… why should you give a shit about theirs?
People relinquish their rights when they step all over other people’s rights, and whoever does it first is the one who relinquishes it because *time does matter.*
There is absolutely ZERO need to transform victims INTO abusers because they have the audacity to treat an abuser like the abuser treated them. Unless the victim starts lying, seeking revenge, hurting others, and *being* an abuser, they’re simply being *JUST.*
It’s justice.
They’re being just.
They’re treating things for exactly what they are, not what they want them to be.
And that’s what I did, all two-and-a-half years (that’s right, from Determinism onward, it’s been two-and-a-half years). I *only* worked with the truth (this is paramount), and I treated other people’s rights and interests with the same regards they treated mine.
And voilá, I was more effective and got more results in 2.5 years than anyone like Emily Schooley did in 15.
I said things and did things no one has done, or is willing to do, and that’s okay! If you aren’t comfortable doing it, don’t! But, don’t go ’round foisting that cowardly unwillingness onto other people with things like,
“Don’t engage! Just report and move on!”
When, no, that’s *not* effective, as we can see… it does jack shit.
Everyone seems desperate to find something to STOP doing, so, here you go:
Stop telling people to not engage.
Stop telling people they’ll never get results.
Stop telling people that evil outweighs the good so the good just have to eke it out.
Stop telling people they owe everything to everyone, especially the abusers.
Stop doing what the abusers *want you to do,* as I’ve proven.
Stop being the hapless victims everyone seems much too eager to be…
Because, you’ll notice, it’s the abusers who stay that way perpetually.
Start living with the awareness that avoiding conflict, “minimizing harm,” and always putting the group first, or society, or peace, or whatever the fuck they’ve shoved down your throat, doesn’t. fucking. work.
Start living as if conflict is the way *towards* the good, because it is.
The truth has always been that Liana Kerzner victimized me to save face.
Liana told a “story that wasn’t theirs to tell,” so that they could look good, despite the very same criteria for “transparency” applying just as equally to their own husband who ended up “doxxing” that very information to everyone in a fucked up defense on Kickstarter.
I NEVER AGREED TO THIS “TRANSPARENCY” BY THE WAY, AND I NEVER OWED IT TO A BACKER BECAUSE I WASN’T INVOLVED IN THE FUCKING PROJECT. MY PRIVACY WAS VIOLATED, OR AS STEVEN JOEL KERZNER PUT IT SO SUCCINCTLY, I WAS THROWN UNDER THE BUS FOR LIANA’S REPUTATION.
I neither consented to nor owed any backer any detail of my entire fucking life, and that includes my living arrangement, my relationship with my spouse, my mental health struggles, my… christ, my childhood sexual trauma (which, no, who the fuck are you to announce it was oversold you parasitic faux-therapist?), my psyche, my hospitalization, my life for 18 months combatting lies…
And I refused to act like I did.
Narcissists forcing roles on everyone… anyone…?
Everyone involved seems very invested in “consent,” and what they do, or don’t, did, or didn’t “consent to,” and everybody appears to take it all so seriously, even chastising me and others for it, except…
When it comes to me, and people like me.
And that’s fucking bullshit.
But the simple fact of the matter is, I never fucking consented to any of this; not the inciting incident where my life was shared beyond my consent for a transparency I never owed, and onwards with specific details of my childhood sexual trauma I hadn’t publicized in that post.
And that HAS to count if any of the others even have a prayer of counting.
Liana Kerzner decided to set this in motion, knowing everything I’ve proven they knew, and then run with it until I was run into the ground or killed myself, and that, my friends, is why they’re a “ghoulish bitch.” It’s not because I’m a misogynist, or transphobic, or hate myself, or need anything…
I have no history of misogyny; no history of transphobia; no history of violence; no history of any of this until 2 years ago when Liana Kerzner entered the chat.
Almost, like, I don’t know, it only exists in Liana’s vindictive mind.
You are not “more equal” than others just because you cross-dress, wear a Fantasic Four sweater, like Power Rangers, have been made fun of, “became” the gender you are, or are into *shudder* loli-/shotakon, or can troll well, or whatever the fuck you think makes you ~special~ because you need to be.
YOU AREN’T THAT FUCKING SPECIAL and you DEFINITELY aren’t the CENTER OF THE UNIVERSE.
You’re not morally ABOVE anyone, and neither am I!
I’m just right, and I can prove it.
Rather than letting it go at that, with Liana saying, “That’s not fucking true,” which Liana Kerzner is very much in a better position than many to do, they instead doubled-down, tripled-down, and gradually escalated until I was allegedly sending them veiled death threats, allegedly committing crimes (IF there just wasn’t that pesky border), and allegedly delusional…
So much so, LIANA KERZNER told everyone how my conversation with the police THEY CALLED ON ME went, and their cult-like followers swallow it up like facts.
No, Bobby Calloway, we have ZERO problem being “the villain” in someone else’s life… partly because we don’t see life as a romantasy fanfic. You should probably listen to your actual friends, by the way, as they seem like they are willing to tell you much more accurate information (you know, the ones you deserted in favor of the cult leader you think we owe millions to in emotional damages?).
YOU ACTUALLY THINK I WORRY ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE’S APPROVAL BOBBY?
AFTER ALL OF THIS!?
REALLY!?!?!?
The truth has always been that Liana Kerzner injured me, to a degree that involves legalities, and has done so to many others who aren’t the “force of nature” others say I am.
And that force? It’s in the rest of you too.
But Liana Kerzner picked the wrong furry.
Liana tried to put the wrong bastard in a box, in a cage, and stick him up on their mind’s shelf.
That never fucking works. Ever. Not with me.
I got results, and frankly, so can you if you pull your head out of your ass long enough to stick to it, tell the truth, have some confidence, and for Lucifur’s sake STAND UP FOR EACH OTHER!
I’m looking at you Al Eufrasio.
Yeah, you ARE a walking giant red flag in the Adventure Gamer’s Guild space and broader fandom, holy shit dude.
You walked into a situation, into Maus‘ YouTube comments, acting like we served you and your shitty-ass toxic-as-fuck community without realizing that, indeed, we had been kicked out and never *really* came back.
Idiot.
You know, admiring someone so much just because they had the luck of having a job in the 90s is really not that great of an idea with some people. You gotta pick your heroes with a little more discernment here, guys!
And Roberta Vaughan’s sibling?
Dude.
Get off your high horse, join the rest of humanity, and fix your dangerous-ass self because you are NOT a safe person. You let all of that happen, thinking (I hope) that extracting things from somebody for the greater good was more moral, and that’s dangerous-as-fuck shit man.
And the audacity to tell my husband that you could see he “hasn’t grown”?
Fuck you man.
Fix your fucking heart and stop running around making sure people fall in line with statements like, “I thought we *agreed* (was it mutual and concrete?) that blah blah blah is a bad person!?” like you’re a seargent on the front lines.
Fuck the fuck off and get a life!
Also, if you see someone being treated like community property, even *AFTER* their death? SAY SOMETHING. It really does save a lot of people a lot of pain than otherwise, which, everyone is supposed to be for “harm reduction” aren’t they?
Not ONE person showed up and said, “Did you get Roberta’s permission before you posted this?” like I would have even if it was my own father or brother.
Not ONE PERSON came in with the extremely reasonable assumption that Roberta Vaughn had a private life outside of their surveillance.
NOT. ONE.
That’s nasty as fuck.
It’s almost like all that “harm reduction” doesn’t get the results many want,
just a few.
But…
I got results, and you can too!
You just have to be willing,
- to go against the grain,
- to speak the truth,
- to stand up for what’s right and valuable (that includes others),
- and to call out the fucking bullshit, and maybe…
Just maybe…
We can get our fucking spaces back.
All this conflict-avoidance has only made things worse.
All this “harm reduction” has only increased harm.
It’s given more tools to abusers to fuck the rest of us over, those of us who can actually disagree and be fine because disagreement is a fundamental part of life.
I miss mine.
I miss it bad.
It didn’t dry up because of me. If you think that… you’re still part of the problem and so you can yeet yourself into next week thank you very much.
The problem wasn’t me. The problem was I couldn’t take the invaders anymore.
But, now I can.
And so can you.
If you want to see it in real-time (like an actual video) go here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aWNjO0eU8Mc
And if you want to download this fine mashup, you can do so here: