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The problem is, from my perspective, and I addressed this way early on, is that if you don't believe it's 'in your nature' to be cruel (which does *not* require deliberateness or ultimately measured by you) then you'll be *blind* to how you might be being cruel. You won't see it.
2025-05-23 07:36:54.548 / 3lpt4ossvl42g
It will be offensive. It will hurt you to consider it. It will be highly distressing, you can't face it. It must not be true.
2025-05-23 07:36:54.549 / 3lpt4ost4fu2g
But, maybe it is. If someone is telling you it was cruel, you don't just say, "It wasn't cruel," and that's that, which is what Liana did.
She kept insisting that, as if it was a fact. But *I* determine if something was cruel *to me.*
2025-05-23 07:36:54.550 / 3lpt4ost5f42g
She doesn't have to agree, but *I* decide that, not my abuser. She kept saying, "It wasn't cruel. It wasn't cruel." Well, Liana, it was cruel *to me* and the fact you keep going at it is cruel to me, to yourself, and to everybody else.
2025-05-23 07:36:54.551 / 3lpt4ost5f52g
But what of *my* cruelty, you might say? Well, I'm sure to the people I'm talking about, what I'm doing may feel to them cruel as well, and that's valid. I respect that. It does not mean that I *must* change, because 'cruelty' is subjective.
2025-05-23 07:36:54.552 / 3lpt4ost6ef2g
I think what I'm doing is right, and maybe Liana thought what she was saying to me was right (she seems to think so really).
My opinion, my interpretation, is that Liana is cruel in how she is acting, to me then, and now.
2025-05-23 07:36:54.553 / 3lpt4ost6eg2g
If I act ridiculously, I accept that people might see me as ridiculous. I accept that people might see me as cruel, an asshole, and horrible. I do not share this opinion and I argue why.
2025-05-23 07:36:54.554 / 3lpt4ost6eh2g
Liana acted bizarrely and in a very ugly fashion in private, but won't accept me telling people bout my experience with her and my feelings about it.
2025-05-23 07:36:54.555 / 3lpt4ost6ei2g
Instead, she and her friends ponder getting protective orders against me.
For talking about them.
For tagging them, even though if they have me blocked, it won't notify them. There isn't any contact.
2025-05-23 07:36:54.556 / 3lpt4ost6ej2g
The protective order would hinder me, obstruct my rights, make it easier for others to abuse me, it *does* have effects that aren't good to an innocent and vulnerable person.
It's not all sunshine and rainbows and victory.
2025-05-23 07:36:54.557 / 3lpt4ost6ek2g
For talking about them.
Because *I'm telling people what they did and hurting their feelings.*
They need protection from that. Legal protection. From me. Who has nothing but this in terms of influence or power. And look at me, it's such a huge influence! I'm so popular!
2025-05-23 07:36:54.558 / 3lpt4ost6el2g
They *need* protection from that. With hundreds if not thousands of followers, big discord servers, reputations, fans, friends, jobs, money, houses, they *need* protection from *me talking about what they did.*
2025-05-23 07:36:54.559 / 3lpt4ost6em2g
They *need* protection from my words.
They believe they are *entitled* to protection from the truth.
I tell them to file. Do what they need to do. Exercise their rights.
As far as I know, they haven't.
If it's so dire, if it's such a violation, why not?
2025-05-23 07:36:54.560 / 3lpt4ost7du2g
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