Bluesky: Oh no… is “therapy speak” being used to distract from your horrible actions @vividfae…

Oh no… is “therapy speak” being used to distract from your horrible actions @vividfaegarden.com? Was it too much of a distraction from your sexism and racism, and your girlfriend @hellscapewanderer.bsky.social’s much lauded performance of main character dismissive ableism?

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Oh no… is "therapy speak" being used to distract from your horrible actions @vividfaegarden.com? Was it too much of a distraction from your sexism and racism, and your girlfriend @hellscapewanderer.bsky.social's much lauded performance of main character dismissive ableism?

2025-03-30 21:45:54.115 / 3llmsx7oohj2d
# The Vivid Fae Garden+ @vividfaegarden.com

Therapy speak being used to distract from horrible actions is a real phenomenon but I think we've come full circle back around to the place where basically anyone who uses the phrase "therapy speak" hasn't gone through enough therapy themselves & should shut up tbh March 30, 2025 at 3:11 PM & Some people can reply 1 repost 2 likes

I have to ask, does anybody think that I haven't gone through enough therapy to recognize when pop psychology buzzwords are being used inappropriately and abusively (that's what we mean when we say "therapy speak").

2025-03-30 21:45:54.116 / 3llmsxamenr2d

"Therapy"-like language is sort of designed to remove yourself from the situation just enough to gain some objective perspective and make it safe.

2025-03-30 21:45:54.117 / 3llmsxamgmb2d

@redlianak.bsky.social recently said this about academic language. But, in doing so, it can also accidentally elevate grievances and other such conclusions or emotions into objective factual context that must be unequivocally accepted.

2025-03-30 21:45:54.118 / 3llmsxamgmc2d

But this isn't true, because they're not objective factual context. It's just a more reasonable objective perspective.

2025-03-30 21:45:54.119 / 3llmsxaut622d

I think anyone who doesn't recognize that inappropriately appropriated medical terms thrown about my pop psychology rags and speedrun therapists should probably not opine on this stuff. What does everyone else think?

2025-03-30 21:45:54.120 / 3llmsxaut632d

Side note: Speaking of "therapy speak" … apparently it's TERRIBLE for me to "erase" her "context," but it's a show of good faith to erase *mine* and *demand* I never talk about it again:

2025-03-30 21:45:54.121 / 3llmsxaux332d
# The Vivid Fae Garden+ @vividfaegarden.com

I'm requesting that no one harass this person or keep gossiping about either my engagement with them or the situation. And for my privacy, l'd kindly ask that people refrain from speculation on a situation that I don't wish to speak about. I apologize for engaging so recklessly. March 26, 2025 at 5:25 PM
Let me make the following things crystal clear: - I do not wish to engage with you in any capacity. Do not contact me again through any means. Do not tag me in posts or continue to post about me. Do not contact my partners)/family, tag them in posts, or post about them. None of us want anything to do with you on any platform. - I have removed my posts as a show of good faith that I no longer wish to continue engaging with you & that I regret allowing myself to speak based on an emotionally reactive response. However, you have continued to post about me & my partner incessantly despite our disengagement & attempts at de-escalation, & you have sent a threatening & honestly disturbing email for what I have no other reason to assume is intended to intimidate or bait me into resuming public engagement. If you continue this behavior, I will have no other choice than to explore my options for defending myself from your harassment. This is not a threat, nor is it a negotiation. This is direct communication of my intentions & wishes. Now, kindly leave me alone.

I identified her. I also explained I wasn't intending to say she engaged like them. *She* took offense to this and *dragged* herself into a "beef" with me. Now we're in a beef. Now we have beef with @vividfaegarden.com and @hellscapewanderer.bsky.social when they "should've just blocked & moved on."

2025-03-30 21:45:54.122 / 3llmsxboral2d

The big offense? She clearly *doesn't* and has *never* "engaged" like Poppy. But that's not true, @vividfaegarden.com and @hellscapewanderer.bsky.social proceeded to do just that and then erase it, and now they're complaining about it and acting like it's my fault.

2025-03-30 21:45:54.123 / 3llmsxbv2g32d
# The Vivid Fae Gardent @vividfaegarden.com

In doing so, they inadvertently lumped me in with my exes & their circle as an example of a specific type of online engagement.

I took exception to that, not bc I have never engaged online similarly to them, but bc I currently don't, or at least make active attempts not to. March 26, 2025 at 5:25 PM 2 likes

She apologizes to her lame-brained troll audience she thinks makes her important, but not me. She also "requests" that no one harasses me (I didn't ask for that. I can handle myself). She also "kindly [asks] that people refrain from speculation on a situation that I don't wish to speak about."

2025-03-30 21:45:54.124 / 3llmsxckxll2d
# The Vivid Fae Garden+ @vividfaegarden.com

I'm requesting that no one harass this person or keep gossiping about either my engagement with them or the situation. And for my privacy, l'd kindly ask that people refrain from speculation on a situation that I don't wish to speak about. I apologize for engaging so recklessly. March 26, 2025 at 5:25 PM

They are kindly asked, because trolls don't respond to legal threats and takedowns (which is why I *didn't* send those e-mails), so she knows it won't work.

I get legal, and potentially death, threats because I won't stop talking and they thought that'd work. It didn't.

2025-03-30 21:45:54.125 / 3llmsxd76332d

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