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Liana Kerzner ( @redlianak.bsky.social, nottherapyshow.com ) is a dishonest predator who takes advantage of vulnerable individuals of many backgrounds by offering them faux safety and understanding. Her radio show and YouTube channel are hotbeds of insider propaganda where …
2025-03-26 23:26:22.944 / 3llcwp7ezoc23
she’s able to “make content,” by using people’s struggles and grievances against her as fodder.
She doesn’t *appear* to do any of this, I know, but she does. I’m not describing the Liana you know, and you’re right, it isn’t the one I knew either. But this is the truth.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.945 / 3llcwpbr2c223
She relies on her frustrated and rightfully angry victims to either sound ludicrous (they’re vulnerable, remember?), be sore enough to be normatively dismissed as being too extra and thin skinned (by her!), or plain conflict averse (a majority of her community) so much so they say nothing.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.946 / 3llcwpbr57s23
Some may perceive me as the first two, which I argue is a product of her mental health stigmatization and campaign (primarily in private) to dehumanize me to the point that I’m just letters on a screen victimizing everyone and …
2025-03-26 23:26:22.947 / 3llcwpbr76c23
not an actual person with any legitimacy. I’m also just a “longwinded as fuck” asshole, so there’s that.
That doesn’t automatically make me wrong.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.948 / 3llcwpbra5k23
My life has been better despite her near weekly vague suggestions otherwise. She is of the type that speaks without stating what she’s talking about or referencing, because she doesn’t have to. Enough of her clique will get it and knowingly snicker.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.949 / 3llcwpbrc4223
Sometimes it’s an efficient extrapolation of multiple events and people. And that would all be fine, except for the observed subsequent reactions to pointing it out: obvious dishonest defenses that often involve a feigned maturity—
2025-03-26 23:26:22.950 / 3llcwpbre2k23
one that mistakes the sophistication of stoking popular social judgments in obvious effort to silence through shame for the healthy conflict resolution equal adults in equal relationships with nothing to prove engage.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.951 / 3llcwpbrezs23
In this instance, if I might say that this or that part of an episode or podcast is about me or my situation, then I would clearly be so full of myself so as to need to project whatever insecurity that might remain on to others.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.952 / 3llcwpbrgyc23
Yet, if I don’t mention or claim that, others come to me asking if various sections of the ramble are about me.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.953 / 3llcwpbrhxk23
In the semiotics of social discourse, that’s not the sign of a mature sophistication, or even a basic kind decency via a refusal to explicitly put me (or others) in the spotlight, because we already are. When I was “left out of it as [such] a kindness” I really wasn’t. It’s a charade.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.954 / 3llcwpbrjw223
We discovered the announcement, as we never watched her videos, because concerned individuals messaged me and my husband asking what had happened and if I was okay. Not one chastised me when I told them what happened in my usual grave detail.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.955 / 3llcwpbrkvc23
She did not alert or discuss with either of us, in particular her essential team member, any matter of what she was about to do. And yet, again, as a hollow appeal to maturity that only a stunted adult behaving like a teenager might make, …
2025-03-26 23:26:22.956 / 3llcwpbrmts23
*we* are still expected to come out of the woodwork, affording her a privacy not shown to us, to resolve things.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.957 / 3llcwpbrnt223
We actually were going to try again a week later, but now… resolve what? What is there to resolve with that kind of behavior? That kind of clear disturbance in behavior and expectations I’ve characteristically seen before?
2025-03-26 23:26:22.958 / 3llcwpbrosc23
Why is asking someone to speak to my husband about hosting, something he is fully qualified to do, immature? By what measure? It’s not clear at all. But it sounds good… to a snarky teenager trying to determine what’s mature.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.959 / 3llcwpbrprk23
What’s actually occurred outside of the cone of silence that she promotes is far different than what she freely assumes.
I’m still not unstable nor lacking in impulse control. Judge my behavior however you want, but I’m telling you it’s not out of control. It’s very controlled.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.960 / 3llcwpbrrq223
This is all on purpose. Some just don’t like it, and that’s all they got.
I choose what I respond to, in which, being a response, everything is bait including what I’ve quoted above.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.961 / 3llcwpbrspc23
See, it’s very easy to do. Unlike her I’m willing to state who I’m talking about: Liana Kerzner of It’s Not Therapy (nottherapyshow.com, @redlianak.bsky.social) fame.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.962 / 3llcwpbruns23
I would consider describing my mental illness as a “buzzsaw of lunacy,” bait, and yet I didn’t immediately respond, flailing about in justifications or denials. There is nothing to justify that I haven’t already justified on my own.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.963 / 3llcwpcn4q223
I would consider using that specific word in a later video as bait too, but there’s been no response until now. I would even consider making a video about emasculation, where she states that she had to learn the hard way that …
2025-03-26 23:26:22.964 / 3llcwpcn7ns23
defending other men in their struggles or being seen as fighting their battles is emasculating and embarrassing, and then minimally ‘tanking’ for me later, telling others not to torture me in a backhanded manner, as bait.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.965 / 3llcwpcnan223
I didn’t immediately respond to that until just yesterday when someone, acting with great knowledge about my situation gleaned from her and Poppy, beat me over the head with their own trauma claiming I was somehow victimizing them.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.966 / 3llcwpcnclk23
Brief side note: again I state that, although I am a victim of Giancarlo Vanzzini’s abuse, I am not being tortured by anyone right now. My mother and husband agree. I’ve dealt with it to my satisfaction. I never needed her plea, sympathy, moralizing, assumptions, or defense.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.967 / 3llcwpcnek223
These little things are why she must always remind others I lack impulse control. That unacceptable lack was the problem in the end.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.968 / 3llcwpcngik23
Isn’t it handy if I always take the bait? Isn’t it handy if I’m actually misogynistic instead of just obnoxious because I clearly can’t hold back?
2025-03-26 23:26:22.969 / 3llcwpcnhhs23
Isn’t it handy if my own thoughts and disagreements show I don’t value the greater (than me, mind you) victims of society (like Saige apparently) because I don’t care to curb them?
2025-03-26 23:26:22.970 / 3llcwpcnjgc23
I can’t control it! I’m too triggered! I’m too out of control! Not the perpetual victims as they bash everyone else, I am! Cause… *checks notes* I don’t have trauma responses… uh wait wut? Mrs. Kerzner *knows* that’s not true.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.971 / 3llcwpcnkfk23
It’s quite handy if I end up not conforming to a promise I made to her when we were friends, because it was about being a better person and not about helping us have a better relationship.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.972 / 3llcwpcnme223
This ignores the fact that I don’t need to keep promises to people who have chosen to not be my friend by lying about me.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.973 / 3llcwpcnndc23
It ignores that it was a commitment to her, not one to myself that she facilitated as a brilliant peer counselor. It was an honest commitment I was willing to make in order to foster a better relationship with her, not myself.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.974 / 3llcwpcnock23
So when I went right back on doing what I’ve always done for whatever reasons I have at the time… Oh, look how terrible and dishonest I am! She was right all along!
2025-03-26 23:26:22.975 / 3llcwpcnqb223
No.
What’s dishonest is expecting someone to keep promises whose crux was the relationship that now doesn’t exist.
But all that reality ain’t so handy is it?
2025-03-26 23:26:22.976 / 3llcwpcnrac23
That’s the crux of this thread: she doesn’t know jack about me, my disorder, my history, or my situation the way she pretends to. For years she herself said she tried to “understand” me, but she never did. She failed miserably.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.977 / 3llcwpcnt6s23
At some point she decided she knew better than I what was really ailing me, and what the solution was: her advice. I disagreed. Literally, all I said about that was that I disagreed.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.978 / 3llcwpcnu6223
She immediately disconnected because “boundaries” while demanding I delete everything I’ve ever written or saved about her as another “boundary.”
2025-03-26 23:26:22.979 / 3llcwpcnv5c23
That’s not suspicious at all. Boundaries don’t work like that. And I didn’t. That’s a huge overstep.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.980 / 3llcwpcnw4k23
Every thing she’s said about me since is just plain wrong. I haven’t expanded on it to great lengths because I don’t really want to involve everyone in the details of my mental health struggles like everyone is expected to do these days. Uh, no. They are private. I reveal a lot, but not everything.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.981 / 3llcwpcnx3s23
My mental health isn’t some game show to put on so others can feel validated, and my journey isn’t for others to benefit from. I don’t want to be known for my disorders, like, wtf?
2025-03-26 23:26:22.982 / 3llcwpcny3223
My problems aren’t a tool to beat others with in trauma responses, or a chess piece on some social board to be used as a scapegoat. I don’t do that. “I just don’t.” @redlianak.bsky.social does with abandon while claiming she cares about me.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.983 / 3llcwpcnzzk23
My goals actually include: game dev (the very industry Mrs. Kerzner maligned me in for no reason other than to cover up her own failings), writing, creating technical tutorials and research for free, …
2025-03-26 23:26:22.984 / 3llcwpd7udk23
animatronics so I can be a real life furry, performance, heading up an organization about creativity, publishing, and more.
Not mental health.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.985 / 3llcwpd7wc223
My daily life, my motivations, my private and intimate relationship with my partner, and my psychology are not anything like she has suggested. At all. She never understood anything I said. But I’m not surprised she claims to have done so now.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.986 / 3llcwpd7z7s23
I’m not conflict averse, which caused friction in her community of mostly conflict averse people. I was never tortured by the trolls, just annoyed, as I wrote. But, who cares about that?
2025-03-26 23:26:22.987 / 3llcwpda27223
I’m sure she knows better. I’m not sure how since we’ve both vowed to never talk to each other again, but I’m sure she knows.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.988 / 3llcwpda54s23
What I’ve done for my betterment is fairly large in number. My mental health has continued to improve since ECT and after I went to DBT, which I completed, and the post-IOP program—
2025-03-26 23:26:22.989 / 3llcwpda64223
a commitment I did make to myself which garnered the response of “blah blah blah.” She wanted specific, but apparently that very concrete specific plan didn’t cut it.
Why offer more?
2025-03-26 23:26:22.990 / 3llcwpdaa2k23
I waited for her to tell me what she wanted me to do to meet her expectations. I asked her. She never told me. I was to fail, not succeed.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.991 / 3llcwpdaazs23
I apologized *twice,* which, I’ve never done in my life. I wanted to maintain what I thought was a valuable relationship for my husband more than anything. I *can* think about someone besides myself, I know, shocker. I was desperate, but I never sacrificed my self-respect. I never do.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.992 / 3llcwpdabz223
Also. I never refused to leave her alone. Every time she requested space I graciously accepted it. Then she’d continue anyway. When I asked for or indicated I was upset enough to walk away or needed space, she didn’t grant it. Her story is backwards.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.993 / 3llcwpdadxk23
Her words were essentially, “You don’t deserve to be entirely comfortable.” I used their (Liana and Poppy’s) language to indicate a boundary, and it *was not respected* at all, breaking the top ten commandment. Liana got boundaries, Poppy got boundaries, I did not. Why?
2025-03-26 23:26:22.994 / 3llcwpdafw223
I also never refused to “comply” in being a better person. Her interpretation of the *text chat* is an utter fabrication, and *that’s* part of what I’m upset about.
It’s just lies.
I already wrote about this months ago.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.995 / 3llcwpdagvc23
Anyway, it wasn’t a valuable relationship at all. It was a negative and harmful relationship that almost broke my husband and I up after more than a decade together. He agrees. Her advice sucks.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.996 / 3llcwpdaits23
I listened to two things she ever said: don’t yell so much, and that I’m like a circuit that needs resistance or else I short. Both of these things she told me in person in Seattle at PAX in obvious *admiration.* I’ve followed both of those things.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.997 / 3llcwpdamqs23
My husband listened to much more than that, commiserating with her about his relationship with me that she, consciously or subconsciously or without any intent at all, influenced to the point where he was accusing me of emotional abuse. He does not believe that now, and recognizes he was wrong.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.998 / 3llcwpdanq223
I would ask him how. I would ask him earnestly why he would say that. What was I doing exactly? I wanted to fix the problem. I wanted my husband to feel my love I was meaning to convey. If I needed to change, then tell me how to do it.
2025-03-26 23:26:22.999 / 3llcwpdapok23
But he never had a clear answer. Even me asking was problematic. I should just magically know and accept it, in the end. Which never happened, as I’m sure you can guess.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.000 / 3llcwpdaqns23
All that’s gone now, because Liana Kerzner, peer counselor extraordinaire, is gone.
Her advice will likely fuck over your relationships too, but hey, your mileage may vary. I don’t know.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.001 / 3llcwpdarn223
I do know that my social life is better, my apartment is better, my bathroom is cleaner, my activity has improved, my cognition has recentered on things away from the computer and improved, …
2025-03-26 23:26:23.002 / 3llcwpdasmc23
my *relationship* has vastly improved with my husband (returning to pre-Kerzner levels of understanding and trust) but he can say more about that, my endeavors and outlook have grown, and I’m taking concrete steps and making plans to finish them.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.003 / 3llcwpdatlk23
Every day I actually do something to get closer to my goals, not just dream, plan, bemoan, and talk to Liana.
I have really big goals, they will take time.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.004 / 3llcwpdauks23
I wrote my first real poem that I’m proud of in fifteen years, The Rage of the Ever Gentle Beast. My therapist was very impressed and moved by it. My husband, a published poet, is impressed. My IOP group was impressed. Hell, honestly, everyone’s impressed. I’m happy with that.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.005 / 3llcwpdavk223
I’m going to be releasing a book soon, both physical and electronic, of my major unpublished works. I’m rebuilding my websites, including How To Program Anything, which I haven’t really touched in a long time.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.006 / 3llcwpdaxik23
My mood is more stable with a med adjustment, my doctor is much more satisfied, my mother much less anxious, …
2025-03-26 23:26:23.007 / 3llcwpdayhs23
my friends much more willing to be straight with me without fear of me running away for *years,* (not three weeks) again, and my biology much more virile.
This also makes me quite happy in ways I haven’t felt in years. I haven’t enjoyed my life this much since I was 21, when I met my husband.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.008 / 3llcwpdazh223
Thank you Liana for dumping us. I’m not yearning for your attention. I’m not mad you “enforced boundaries.” I’m all about boundaries. Despite you repeating otherwise as a distraction, that’s *not* what I’m upset with.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.009 / 3llcwpdb2gc23
Neither you nor Poppy are that special or important. Not everyone pines after your sparkling personalities.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.010 / 3llcwpdb3fk23
I’m actually happy despite my online struggles, not just now, but for months. This isn’t a revelation. I haven’t just come out of the haze a brand new person.
None of this is new to me. It’s just inconvenient and annoying. It’s not a journey of growth here. I’ve already done that.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.011 / 3llcwpdb4es23
And it isn’t because of Mrs. Kerzner’s advice. It’s the opposite: it’s because both of us stopped following any of Mrs. Kerzner’s advice. This isn’t something I’ve experienced with a single therapist I’ve stuck with, meaning none of them gave me this bad of advice.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.012 / 3llcwpdb5e223
I refused to be a client of Mrs. Kerzner (who is decidedly not a therapist) despite my husband’s encouragement, but the advice was always there in his most vulnerable and frustrated moments for sure.
I was never the beneficiary in that. Ever.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.013 / 3llcwpdb6dc23
When she got around to me, she was upset, traumatized, and afraid but showing it as anger she’s never guilty of by intention. She told me nothing I might’ve not known about myself.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.014 / 3llcwpdb7ck23
But it wasn’t true. Her explosive tirade and follow up comfortable remodeling was completely biased, close minded, inaccurate, and pitiful.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.015 / 3llcwpdb7cl23
I pitied her seeming inability to understand, but I was also extremely repulsed by the revolting lack of connection and more horrifying lack of empathy. I wasn’t the only one who felt this way. My husband did too.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.016 / 3llcwpdbabt23
People should really heed when I say that words on a screen don’t directly correlate to reality. They never do. Meeting someone in person can change your entire opinion of them. Some people can’t handle this, and it’s extremely telling.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.017 / 3llcwpdbbb323
Everything I do is deliberate, not an impulse. If I was still struggling with impulse control like I did when I was 18 I would still be where I kept ending up: under camera surveillance in the bare solitary quiet room where I sat on a bolted-down bed.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.018 / 3llcwpdbcad23
Those were the stakes, not fear of cancellation by a woke mob on social media or ostracism over a “hot take.” Freedom or incarceration.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.019 / 3llcwpdbd7l23
I “Fucking. Learned.” the lessons the hard way so that I could be free to live the life I wanted to live outside of that room. To accomplish that, I didn’t have a choice but to gain control of myself in accordance with others judgments.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.020 / 3llcwpdbe6t23
I can’t say that others have faced the same requirement, and it’s incredibly glaring.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.021 / 3llcwpdbf6323
She was so frightened at my “lack of progress” after 23 years of therapy with no thought paid towards how I must have progressed to get where I was. I couldn’t have possibly been *that* disturbed, she would know.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.022 / 3llcwpdbf6423
And if she didn’t, then it would be my moral failing for not telling her.
Except for the pesky fact that I did.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.023 / 3llcwpdbg5e23
Truth is I am quite disturbed, but it shows a lot less now due to me managing my symptoms and not making them others’ responsibility.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.024 / 3llcwpdbh4m23
I can’t say the same for Poppy, Saige, *and* Mrs. Kerzner, even if occasionally she decides to sound like me and take on my stances in direct contradiction to her previous statements or behavior. People like it when she says the same thing I say, just not when I say it.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.025 / 3llcwpdbi3u23
It’s actually why I refuse to make my mental health issues other people’s problems. If they aren’t my responsibility, I can’t do anything about them but suffer under other people’s negligence and apathy.
We can see the results of that everywhere.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.026 / 3llcwpdbi3v23
We can see it in Poppy’s highly selective refusal to take on the responsibility of having a favorite person, or her failings at enforcing her own boundaries only to be assuredly victimized by me (of course, that was the point).
2025-03-26 23:26:23.027 / 3llcwpdbj3523
We can see it in Saige and girlfriends outbursts that somehow I’m harming some carefully constructed narrative and threatening the status of their victimhood they cling to so tightly because it makes their lives meaningful.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.028 / 3llcwpdbk2f23
They’d rather beat me over the head and measure my dick than face the fact that their trauma isn’t going to bloom into anything.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.029 / 3llcwpdbkzn23
But we can especially see it under accounts flailing about trying to mainstream bizarre sexual trauma coping strategies as self-care, as one does these days. It’s amazing to me that others keep violently ghosting them, inflicting trauma on them and their loved ones by doing nothing. It’s neglect!
2025-03-26 23:26:23.030 / 3llcwpdbkzo23
I know what neglect is, and that I would most likely encounter it like I had for the past twenty-five years. Why set myself up for failure by expecting others to not neglect me?
2025-03-26 23:26:23.031 / 3llcwpdblyw23
Or the opposite, to expect others to constantly extend me ever expanding comfort and consideration until my reality became theirs?
There is no need to “educate” anyone into taking care of you for the rest of your life because you exist.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.032 / 3llcwpdbmy623
Sounds disastrous. Look at the train wreck before you as an example. Mine happened when I was 18 and 27. It was traumatic. *That’s* what I’ve been recovering from the last 15 years, not shooting myself in the foot because I love misery.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.033 / 3llcwpdbnxg23
Don’t know what the train wrecks were?
That’s because I don’t put them on full display on social media for clicks, friends, community, views, and monetization.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.034 / 3llcwpdbnxh23
I don’t want to be coddled. Having suffered emotional neglect, there wasn’t really anyone to do that anyway. My father set the tone of my life by his existence.
My husband also does not coddle me or fix anything for me. He does not fight my battles. He’s his own person.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.035 / 3llcwpdbowp23
I fight my own battles. Anyone who’s been paying any attention (which is mostly no one, I have no audience) will note that I have been relatively successful in my own battles.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.036 / 3llcwpdbpvx23
Of course Mrs. Kerzner wouldn’t think about that or believe me when I told her, and everyone else. She’d made up her mind and had an unwavering judgment: I had been coddled my whole affluent life due to everyone being afraid of my abuse, but she had the answer!
2025-03-26 23:26:23.037 / 3llcwpdbqv723
Note: I’m not affluent. Mrs. Kerzner, and Poppy, enjoy more assets, security, and income than I probably ever will. When we visited a mansion in Arkansas, Mrs. Kerzner kept remarking and connecting with the owner about how her house was very much alike.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.038 / 3llcwpdbqva23
Thing is, I will probably see someone for my condition the rest of my life. That’s how chronic disabilities work. You don’t go to a therapist, psychologist, and especially psychiatrist to find meaning and purpose in your life, despite their popularization.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.039 / 3llcwpdbrui23
Read a book, talk to a priest, attend a self-help seminar, hire a life coach, that’s what all of that’s for.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.040 / 3llcwpdbstq23
Mental health care is for helping individuals behave in ways that are beneficial to them because they are currently behaving in ways that are profoundly maladaptive for a number of reasons. Some of these reasons are permanent. They are very real almost unsolvable disturbances of great severity.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.041 / 3llcwpdbstr23
It’s not to indulge in or rationalize these behaviors, and not to learn ways to force others to accept them.
Unfortunately, Mrs. Kerzner isn’t a life coach, though she acts like a very mediocre one, but instead a peer counselor.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.042 / 3llcwpdbtsz23
She’s in the mental health field but rather than work to treat illness, she peddles pop psychology, “boundaries” that aren’t boundaries, meaning, purpose, and …
2025-03-26 23:26:23.043 / 3llcwpdbusb23
a philosophical trick to make not killing yourself an objective fact that can’t be disputed (but doesn’t mean anything.) None of that is mental health.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.044 / 3llcwpdbusc23
It’s haphazard self-help masquerading as mental health, and a course that you can sort of graduate. Apparently you can sort your shit out by the time you’re in your thirties. That, and everybody, no matter how healthy, should do it by completing two years of intensive therapy.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.045 / 3llcwpdbvrk23
It’s devalued real medical psychological treatment into a brand you can wear to be popular among the cool kids. Have doubts? Just scroll through the children malingering on camera in droves just to fit in. It’s dystopian.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.046 / 3llcwpdbwqs23
You don’t really matter unless you’re neurodivergent. You don’t have a say or can experience injustice unless you are strange, but strange like everyone else, not like me.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.047 / 3llcwpdbwqt23
The idea is that I should be better. I should be cured. With 23 years under my belt, I should have a career, successful projects, and not be dragging everyone down anymore, like her project I had nothing to do with. But that’s not how it works for someone like me.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.048 / 3llcwpdbxq323
Most schizophrenics don’t just stop being schizophrenic. Most paraplegics don’t start moving their limbs after a long enough rest in a hospital.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.049 / 3llcwpdbypd23
I can go on and on and on… But these are all perfect examples, of which I have five years worth, that speak of someone who is very emotionally stunted and dangerously immature, but only due to her mastery of feigning the opposite.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.050 / 3llcwpdbype23
It’s dangerous because she’s handing out bad advice to people who truly believe she knows something they don’t. As written, her advice and influence almost ended my now-20-year relationship. It’s just bad. My husband is much happier now, with my progress, and with me.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.051 / 3llcwpdbzom23
The following is really important:
Mrs. Kerzner exploded *on me.* She 180’d on me. She was cruel and ugly *to me* as part of a “trauma response,” and *I made room for that without sacrificing my self-respect.*
I exercised a great deal of empathy.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.052 / 3llcwpdbzon23
She was so afraid of me that she angrily mocked my dearly admired dead father for being smart, implying my intelligence would lead to the same negligence and suicide he unfortunately ended up succumbing to because he’s human.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.053 / 3llcwpdc2nv23
I had to listen to her! That meant agreeing with her, and making her observations and demands my reality. She was to strip me of all intention and will so she could replace it with her neuroses.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.054 / 3llcwpdc3n523
I had to “Fucking. Learn.”
I never called her a bitch.
I never intentionally dismissed her.
I never went anywhere she didn’t want me to go except to agree with her.
I never insulted her back except…
2025-03-26 23:26:23.055 / 3llcwpdc3n623
at the very end where I sarcastically mocked her cartoonish view of relationships by mirroring how she had treated me. That’s what she quotes, *me making fun of her treatment of me.*
“Do you want a reward?”
2025-03-26 23:26:23.056 / 3llcwpdc4mg23
BTW, this was text, not voice. I did not scream at her. She could get in any words she wanted.
If that sounds horrible, and lacking any empathy, it’s because she had forced that point of contention on to me earlier. She’s the one lacking empathy there, not me.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.057 / 3llcwpdc4mh23
And she had no room for any of that. No room for any dissent. No room for me to be a human independent of her.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.058 / 3llcwpdc5lp23
She still doesn’t. I only exist as a set of letters on a screen for others to be victimized and oppressed by. I have no interests, no feelings, no dignity, and there are no concerns for my safety, …
2025-03-26 23:26:23.059 / 3llcwpdc6kx23
even when I appear suicidal or as if I might do something terrible and risk hospitalization in a clear expression of dealing with this ostracism.
And I have appeared that way, but somehow those markers of incredible dangerous disturbance are missed. I guess it’s because I’m the only one in danger?
2025-03-26 23:26:23.060 / 3llcwpdc6ky23
Despite her protestations, she doesn’t care. She describes me as anti-social, a “buzzsaw of lunacy,” miserable, self-loathing, and purposely emasculates me (I cannot draw any other conclusion) …
2025-03-26 23:26:23.061 / 3llcwpdc7ka23
by feigning consideration by defending me against my trolls as if I haven’t done that myself to impressive results.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.062 / 3llcwpdc7kb23
I *do not need * and *do not want* her defense or her attention. I don’t want her to talk to me. In *her* terms she’s deliberately crossing my boundaries. I’m not tortured.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.063 / 3llcwpdcajj23
This is all a fabrication of hers to make her out to not only be siding with a Kiwi Farmer (whom she’s above) but also give a shit about me. It’s two-faced inconsistent performative puppetry so she can be whatever you agree with.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.064 / 3llcwpdcajk23
I implore you to really listen to her rambling videos with that in mind.
Nothing but lies, mine apparently, deflection, hiding behind marginalized people and disabilities, and very normative judgment.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.065 / 3llcwpdcbis23
Whenever she needs to increase her credibility she tells us, the victims, or just me, how we should react and how we should deal with things if what we say was true, all of which amount to walking away and doing nothing.
How convenient.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.066 / 3llcwpdcbit23
Is that her advice for victims of abuse and crime too? Was I to get fed up and run away barefoot from my father’s negligence in search of real affection? That which would serve only my interests and expectations?
2025-03-26 23:26:23.067 / 3llcwpdcci323
Was I to find myself, doing such, in the arms of a great communal society built to take care of people like me only to later complain of the oppression I’d end up facing? A society which, at that time and place, didn’t exist, and truly, never existed?
2025-03-26 23:26:23.068 / 3llcwpdcci423
She inserts herself into my struggles simply to emasculate me by her own standards. So do her friends by example. It’s all designed to subtly keep bashing us, putting us down, and delegitimize us (which does not depend on how far any of us go).
2025-03-26 23:26:23.069 / 3llcwpdcdhe23
Who’s us? Me, James, Meeki, Maus, some who I’m thinking would wish to be anonymous, and possibly more. It might include Emily Schooley who I don’t support, but it’s hard to say… most likely because of Mrs. Kerzner.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.070 / 3llcwpdcdhf23
Pretty much anyone who dares say anything negative about Mrs. Kerzner in talking about our own interactions with her. She continuously mocks us and our grievances with funny voices and strange, dramatically stilted emoting on about a biweekly basis.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.071 / 3llcwpdcegn23
I did not delay Song of Sparklemuffin. The biggest culprit for delays, besides my husband’s employment status, was Mrs. Kerzner, but that’s not my story to tell.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.072 / 3llcwpdcffv23
Mrs. Kerzner is a hurt and traumatized individual in all the ways she’s shared, but that doesn’t excuse the fact that she has clearly not learned any lessons the hard way because she continues to mess up.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.073 / 3llcwpdcffw23
She is like the girl in the Interrupted movie that lords it over everyone that she got better, and, to use her language, where’d that character end up?
2025-03-26 23:26:23.074 / 3llcwpdcgf623
I shouldn’t have to write this, given what I wrote earlier, but if you found that distastefully monstrous and cruel please know that I’m only mimicking what Liana said to me about my dead father by suicide.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.075 / 3llcwpdcgf723
And if that hasn’t hit you until now, then Mrs. Kerzner has succeeded in her campaign of dehumanization.
Only she’s allowed to be a victim of cruelty.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.076 / 3llcwpdcheh23
She is disturbed, much like me, but instead of seeking real help, she becomes a peer counselor.
The results are devastating for everyone, especially Liana Kerzner.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.077 / 3llcwpdchei23
Liana Kerzner’s worst defamatory stalker is Liana Kerzner, and the best person to talk about Liana Kerzner’s failings is, again, Liana Kerzner, and she inevitably will.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.078 / 3llcwpdchej23
Someone can evade reality, but they cannot evade the consequences of that evasion. Reality alone is the final arbiter of everything, not Mrs. Kerzner, not me, not Poppy, not Kiwi Farms, not Giancarlo Vanzzini, and not Maus.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.079 / 3llcwpdcjcz23
I was already extremely comfortable with this fact. Others aren’t. I love facts. Others don’t.
Their life their choice.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.080 / 3llcwpdcjd223
It’s all quite silly really, but unfortunately this silliness has very real consequences that’s hurting people, including Mrs. Kerzner, her “friends” as she put it (and they’ll all eventually end up in quotes), the latest exile, and myself.
Over and over and over.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.081 / 3llcwpdckcc23
Liana Kerzner of the It’s Not Therapy radio show and podcast, weekly YouTuber with a focus on mental health and men’s issues, business owner of New World Events (which had to cancel its first major event), …
2025-03-26 23:26:23.082 / 3llcwpdckcd23
and professionally-regarded peer counselor currently building her authority in the field (despite what she says, it’s passive content based income by the book), profits by dispensing harmful advice to vulnerable individuals in partial effort to maintain …
2025-03-26 23:26:23.083 / 3llcwpdclbl23
a community of potential clients she can stir up for drama content and topics to trot out in her channel without naming names like a late night cheap crypto-Dr. Phil except worse.
On the passive income thing, that’s how it works. Read 4-Hour Work Week by Tim Ferris like I did when it came out.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.084 / 3llcwpdclbm23
She’s much worse than Dr. Phil. He at least has a modicum of standards, names names, and gives people an opportunity to try to share their side. For the record, I don’t like Dr. Phil.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.085 / 3llcwpdcmau23
She divulges client information to friends to achieve this, such as Mitchell Jura’s history and living situation, regardless of intent, creating a hostile environment that other abusers can seize upon …
2025-03-26 23:26:23.086 / 3llcwpdcmav23
and flourish within, even if they’re later kicked out, like Giancarlo Vanzzini.
I’ve *already* talked about this, months ago.
So no, I didn’t wait until now just to stabby stab stab stab, I said all this months ago. I don’t have an audience like she does, or Giancarlo, or Poppy, or Saige.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.087 / 3llcwpdcna523
Maybe I should.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.088 / 3llcwpdco7f23
Once somebody or something is inconvenient, such as a game project she can’t finish, she excommunicates dreaded Ayn Rand-style (not me) and parades the apostates as horrid and dangerous letters on a screen.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.089 / 3llcwpdco7g23
Her fans dare not become one of them so they say and do nothing. No contact is the expectation, lest it cause Liana Kerzner to have an uncontrollable trauma response that she abusively acts on.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.090 / 3llcwpdco7h23
She is a professional victim of everyone, including herself, as demonstrated by a history of doing this type of thing in every circle she has ever inserted herself into. She is so fixated on not being deliberately cruel because she is afraid people might see that it is true, including herself.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.091 / 3llcwpdcp6p23
Her advice is average, inconsistent, uninspired, and downright harmful to anyone looking to form mature and warm relationships. Her boundaries are demands on others that everyone must respect or else they’re “bad crazy.”
2025-03-26 23:26:23.092 / 3llcwpdcq5x23
She uses terms like “word salad” to describe text she doesn’t understand seemingly unaware that it’s stigmatizing to schizophrenics despite being a self-described mental health journalist.
I don’t, but that’s a whole other story. If you think I don’t spend time on anyone, you’d be wrong.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.093 / 3llcwpdcq5y23
It’s no surprise, she can’t recognize mental health stigma or delegitimization when it’s right in front of her, instead insisting that it’s bound to moral action.
Which makes no sense.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.094 / 3llcwpdcr5a23
If you go too far, it’s okay for others to put you on blast and strip you of agency and blame your mental illness for their suffering.
It’s because they’re her friend. It’s pure self-centered bias.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.095 / 3llcwpdcr5b23
She reinforces that mental health symptoms are other people’s responsibilities in defense of her friend and possible source of clients Poppy Diabolique, …
2025-03-26 23:26:23.096 / 3llcwpdcs4j23
paying no mind to the setbacks others will face in trying to raise the bar on forced institutionalization.
She’s never had to deal with it, so it doesn’t matter.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.097 / 3llcwpdcs4k23
As an upper-class middle-aged gender-nonconforming white woman who grew up poor she wrings her hands and clutches her pearls while telling the rest of us, the neurodivergent and queer, …
2025-03-26 23:26:23.098 / 3llcwpdct3s23
especially confused geeky men who just want a girlfriend, how to act and do everything else to fix a problem she’s not even personally invested in. A problem that may not even exist. At least, not the way she frames it.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.099 / 3llcwpdct3t23
She mans the gate to the zoo, charging tickets, as any self-respecting busybody fighting for safety, dignity, and inclusion would do to rightfully exclude the wrong people.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.100 / 3llcwpdcu3323
She faints on the couch at the slightest pushback, painting it as harassment, stalking, lies, and just weird scary behavior that makes no sense to gaslight her viewers not paying attention that people have nothing to say.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.101 / 3llcwpdcu3423
She really does care about people!
Trust her guys, she did after all conquer her PTSD so as not to stomp all over people and have others admire the tread.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.102 / 3llcwpdcu3523
This overall group threat is just as great as Peterson, Tate, and others she rightfully discredits, it just hasn’t fully played out yet.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.103 / 3llcwpdcv2f23
Her and Poppy, the new power couple (our power throuple is over!), haven’t had a falling out… yet. When the apocalypse occurs she’ll once again change her stripes and camouflage into a new field of interest, justifying It with people unfairly calling her a bitch. She just can’t deal.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.104 / 3llcwpdcv2g23
She *wants* people, especially the men she so desperately wants to be an expert on (she is emphatically not), to call her a bitch in my own personal opinion, your mileage may vary.
I have not. Ever. She isn’t a bitch. She’s just sad.
It’s not about her being a woman.
It’s about her behavior.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.105 / 3llcwpdcvzo23
I’m getting really tired of the tediousness involved in posting decidedly long form blog post like content to fucking BlueSky. It’s also somewhat annoying it’s been painted as manic, autistic (wtf? Isn’t there nothing wrong with autism?), borderline, “bad crazy,” “textbook criminal,” and so on.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.106 / 3llcwpdcwyw23
So I’m reopening my blog, once again, so I can avoid the laboriously time-consuming efforts, and the somewhat exhausting drivel-like reactions that come with it.
Check it out soon at asherwolfstein.com
2025-03-26 23:26:23.107 / 3llcwpdcwyx23
One very last thing. I’m not stalking Liana Kerzner. Everything I know about anything she does is from either personally verified publicly leaked information (by others, not me), things others have shared with me, or what she’s posted publicly that *anyone* can see.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.108 / 3llcwpdcxy723
Why do I “hate watch” as she puts it? I don’t. I fear watch, just like I peruse two Kiwi Farms threads I ended up in from no fault of my own, to see what people might say about me that could really affect my life. Like really. This isn’t fun to me. It’s not a game.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.109 / 3llcwpdcyxh23
I’m under weekly monitoring and check in and could easily, by matter of opinion, be locked away in the pseudo-legal mental health system as a harmful or, in this administration, inconvenient person. …
2025-03-26 23:26:23.110 / 3llcwpdcyxi23
A history of 17 hospitalizations isn’t a long dick to be proud of, it’s a terrifying liability. I face that in my life.
She doesn’t.
2025-03-26 23:26:23.111 / 3llcwpdczwq23
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