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I keep seeing an affectation out there.
I don’t ever remember referring to my husband or myself as “me and mine,” or even “mine.” I’ve said my partner or my husband as in a relation to me, but never husband or partner of mine.
2025-04-02 08:38:12.111 / 3llsydhixos2a
I don’t really not do that as a conscious choice, but because it has never occurred to me that my husband is mine. I find the phrase so off putting that I cringe when others say it.
2025-04-02 08:38:12.112 / 3llsydhjic22a
I suppose, after 20 years, me continuing to have sex with another guy and giving handjobs to friends a year into living together, and a handful of threesomes (one with his ex we lived with when I first moved in with him, but …
2025-04-02 08:38:12.113 / 3llsydhjkak2a
after we moved out) that never erupted into long extended bouts of bitter public drama and accusations of abuse, I never saw him as a possession.
2025-04-02 08:38:12.114 / 3llsydhjm722a
I guess that’s the secret to a love and marriage so solid that it will never end: doing the work and not building it on possessive control and insecurities.
2025-04-02 08:38:12.115 / 3llsydhjn6c2a
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