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I guess it's not really being childish so much as it's joking about child sexual assault as an adult with no additional context other than they're presumably making fun of themselves.
What we have here is a shining example, a pillar of a community, and an effective child sexual abuse advocate…
2025-04-03 05:19:54.800 / 3llv5pst5ik2v
Here we see a glowing review from a highly credible member of the community, a licensed therapist dedicated to destigmatizing #BPD who states that this highly effective child sexual abuse advocate is a good friend, ā¦
2025-04-03 05:19:54.801 / 3llv5pufqn22v
a thoughtful provocateur (is that what you call this humor without context? thoughtful?) and a fantastic writer we should all subscribe to because they compete with some of the worst online.
*blinks*
2025-04-03 05:19:54.802 / 3llv5pufrmc2v
It's so very curious why there's such hostility toward these people when they're just posting their lives. Why can't everyone simply leave them alone and let them be publicly private? ā¦
2025-04-03 05:19:54.803 / 3llv5pufslk2v
Don't these pathetic moralistic whiners have their own interests, their own lives, and their own perverted psyche-wreaking desires of cosmic proportions they can feel special about and wear like a badge of honor?
2025-04-03 05:19:54.804 / 3llv5pufsll2v
It's very much a flashy con badge because, being tolerant and understanding, particularly of that which everyone hates and vilifies, is always the ultimate indicator of virtue thanks to the moral doctrine of altruism as laid out by Comte and put into practice by the Victorians.
2025-04-03 05:19:54.805 / 3llv5pufslm2v
I hate this disclaimer, but I'll make it again: I have a crystal clear comprehension of the difference between fiction and reality. It's not the fiction itself that I'm extrapolating from, as I don't really care. It's a fantastical fiction, so, by definition, none of it matters in real life.
2025-04-03 05:19:54.806 / 3llv5puftku2v
I'm not pro- or anti-whatever, and I don't care. I really don't belong on these stupid-ass lists.
2025-04-03 05:19:54.807 / 3llv5puftkv2v
My angle is that, just by having to take such a vehement and stringent 'stance' on something that is regarded as weird, horrific, and disturbing to a degree that makes it taboo, it becomes more than simple fiction.
2025-04-03 05:19:54.808 / 3llv5puftkw2v
In doing so, it becomes a schema, if you will forgive me for sounding like a Peer Counseling pop psychology hack, that's being plied beyond the inner dark recesses of the mind. Turning it into a social stance that is somehow appropriate to discuss as if it's 'normal' or proper, and
2025-04-03 05:19:54.809 / 3llv5puftkx2v
taking a *moral* stance that explicitly excludes others so much so it turns into an O'Reilly-esque culture war further concretizes over-idealized fantasies and pushes them further up to the surface level of identity ā¦
2025-04-03 05:19:54.810 / 3llv5pufuk72v
until jerking it to drawings of little boys engaging in sexual acts with adults, sometimes non-consensually or as a result of aggressive grooming, is a badge of honor.
2025-04-03 05:19:54.811 / 3llv5pufuka2v
You earn this All American patch by coping with trauma in hardcore erotic role-play with people who most likely are pedophiles at least 6 times in one month.
Take a moment to breathe and really think about that.
2025-04-03 05:19:54.812 / 3llv5pufukb2v
I don't care whether it's moral or not as long as everyone involved is an adult and it's *entirely* fictional and bears no resemblance to anything that exists or has actually happened. If it doesn't actually exist or happen, it can't really be moral in my book.
2025-04-03 05:19:54.813 / 3llv5pufukc2v
I'm not going to barge into people's houses as the self-appointed morality police, rushing into their very private bedrooms, and divest them of books and electronic devices because, as responsible adults,
2025-04-03 05:19:54.814 / 3llv5pufukd2v
they used words in ways I don't like that have no harmful effect on the further reality outside of themselves whatsoever. I stand with free speech.
2025-04-03 05:19:54.815 / 3llv5pufuke2v
I've known for quite some time that many people strive for this: they self-diagnose afflictions of burdensome importance in the museum tapestries depicting an ever-merciful compassion towards humanity's clumsy and ignorant failures. We are to find beautiful inspiration in their parochial idealism.
2025-04-03 05:19:54.816 / 3llv5pufvjm2v
What I care about is this idea that this 'kink' should be 'normalized' to any degree and brought out of the dark corners of taboo they appropriately find themselves in so that everyone can decide it's not *that* bad.
2025-04-03 05:19:54.817 / 3llv5pufvjn2v
Having it in those corners doesn't really prevent anyone from thinking about it, finding materials, forming a private community, or talking to therapists or online about it, so, for everyone else who's traumatized and uncomfortable with it, it can just stay there, thanks. Where's the problem?
2025-04-03 05:19:54.818 / 3llv5pufvjo2v
Seriously, where's the issue?
That people are being 'judged' over it? Perhaps some are by some others, but what *most* people not terminally online ultimately criticize are the individuals, like @kodochara.bsky.social,
2025-04-03 05:19:54.819 / 3llv5pufwiw2v
who just seem to qualify for so many suspicions you lose count. They self-qualify by making inappropriate jokes, not as a fluke, but as a matter of community inclusion.
?
2025-04-03 05:19:54.820 / 3llv5puokuo2v
They hide any appearance of authenticity and their not well-crafted feelings behind shock value, fierce protective advocacy, frightening coping strategies, anti-/pro-ship movements, and fantastic provocative writing, so much so that
2025-04-03 05:19:54.821 / 3llv5puokup2v
they appear to do nothing to stop reminding people of their childhood abusers, so perfectly in fact it's uncanny.
That is just a funny afterthought to them in their masturbatory self-indulgent lifestyle.
2025-04-03 05:19:54.822 / 3llv5puokuq2v
It's a type of nihilistic and sardonic humor I might have indulged in myself, I suppose, when I was 22 and under the thumb of a highly skilled conman who told me everything I wanted to hear. But, twenty years later, not today.
2025-04-03 05:19:54.823 / 3llv5puokur2v
Pile on to it a licensed therapist who states that their advocacy for these individuals suffering from these theoretically unwanted and harrowing desires (because they don't want to find themselves eventually compelled to act out of, presumably, compassion and horror) includes
2025-04-03 05:19:54.824 / 3llv5puoorr2v
sending them to a childlike sex worker to get their "urges met" as therapy rather than the stigmatization they would face… not… doing those things?
2025-04-03 05:19:54.825 / 3llv5pvnmzb2v
They state that no one was stigmatized or harmed. But is that true simply because the patient got his wish, sort of, through state-licensed medical professional channels?
2025-04-03 05:19:54.826 / 3llv5pvnmzc2v
I know, in my layman's experience and observations, that
2025-04-03 05:19:54.827 / 3llv5pvnnyk2v
I wouldn't call living out a bizarre fantasy you supposedly *don't* want and feeling "good" for a time harmless. Many people get bored and dissatisfied or have comorbidities from which these "harmless" urges stem, but that isn't factored in.
How could it be in such an example or the implicit framework within which it must operate?
I would like to imagine that any competent therapist with a Master's in #Counseling would realize right away that reality *never* matches up to fantasy,
2025-04-03 05:19:54.828 / 3llv5pvnnyl2v
especially one that seems to run up against that notion every month as evidenced by her social media posts. But, hey, in my first and only conversation with @ladydiabolique.bsky.social, despite her protestations, it wasn't clear at all that
2025-04-03 05:19:54.829 / 3llv5pvnnym2v
compassion wasn't coddling, and accountability wasn't punishment, so I'm not terribly surprised. I'm actually bored of that whole very average kerfuffle now, having written plenty about it already.
2025-04-03 05:19:54.830 / 3llv5pvwham2v
There seems to be a constant push of a special bent in her community and its associates, that being able to wrap yourself in a warm blanket of fulfillment, partaking in some way in every whim or desire
2025-04-03 05:19:54.831 / 3llv5pvwhan2v
no matter how bizarre or morally questionable without supposedly losing your mind is the ideal mode of mental health and their version of living their best life.
And that's somehow better and not psychologically self-destructive?
2025-04-03 05:19:54.832 / 3llv5pvwhao2v
There isn't *any risk* that pushing for such may cause a crumbling insatiable obsessive psyche to want more? More novelty, more interest… more reality?
On the sex worker note: as far as my research showed 15 years ago, sexual surrogacy has been largely, if not entirely, phased out
2025-04-03 05:19:54.833 / 3llv5pvwhap2v
of what we would call legitimate psychiatry and psychotherapeutic practices due to overwhelming ethical concerns and underwhelming results. I should know. I was deeply concerned about this topic and spent 2 years contemplating and researching it.
2025-04-03 05:19:54.834 / 3llv5pvwi7x2v
I've asked multiple practicing psychiatrists from many walks of life this question, and they all told me it was not really a thing anymore among ethical and serious practitioners who wanted to help people.
2025-04-03 05:19:54.835 / 3llv5pvwi7y2v
There was no special one-on-one time being proposed between psychiatric hospital patients and sexfluencers from OnlyFans (or whatever else at the time) as a means to relax or cure trauma, and one would never materialize.
2025-04-03 05:19:54.836 / 3llv5pvwj7a2v
While a few older studies (that I'm aware of) show a 100% success rate for certain conditions in specific cultural periods, there are far more instances where adding a sexual component with another person only complicated the situation.
2025-04-03 05:19:54.837 / 3llv5pvwj7b2v
The patients fell in love, wanted to pursue the surrogate, or developed additional a posteriori feelings of resentment, shame, or inadequacy. These are all basic psychological elements to *avoid* risking introduction into the *healing* process.
2025-04-03 05:19:54.838 / 3llv5pvwj7c2v
This is all to say the ethics of sexual surrogates are profoundly questionable. It's hard for me to fathom, as a rational and experienced adult, that regarding the penis, an instrument of primal pleasure, as a medical apparatus for healing would be a good idea.
2025-04-03 05:19:54.839 / 3llv5pvwj7d2v
I also cannot bring myself to seriously envision the possibility of a world where these dubiously therapeutic atmospheres wouldn't be taken advantage of by abusive actors.
2025-04-03 05:19:54.840 / 3llv5pvwl5t2v
That would be so naive, Pollyanna, and ethically unaware I wouldn't be able to look myself in the mirror if the proposal ever slipped through my mouth (that everyone seems to want to be in).
So what's really at work here?
You tell me.
2025-04-03 05:19:54.841 / 3llv5pvwl5u2v
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2025-04-03 05:19:54.842 / 3llv5pvwl5v2v
Dammit, missed the attachment again.
2025-04-03 05:30:02.248 / 3llv6bw4tkc2t
Oh, in case anyone was wondering, this is a slice of the community Iām talking about:
2025-04-03 07:36:43.185 / 3llvfegwymc2k
This is one of many types of threads that doesnāt pass @skunkw0rxx.dev critical vibe check, so Iām not invited to what Iām sure is a very large and very exclusive party full of fun and fresh excitement.
2025-04-03 07:39:18.183 / 3llvfj2r2w22k
Also, Iām on this stupid af list And when I tried to contact the moderator I was brushed off and mocked as unserious or some such (trying to remember).
2025-04-03 07:46:07.878 / 3llvfvbhwpk2k
Iām still completely unckear how Iām fascist, TERF-like (Iām trans-species), anti- (I make no claims to being an authority on what is to be published), or even an abuser. They never make it clear. Itās like they canāt because itās just an unarticulated feeling or something.
2025-04-03 07:46:07.879 / 3llvfvcekq22k
But I think trying to mainstream weird taboo shit to the point of offering it as therapy or a cure/salve for anything is generally not such a good idea soā¦ I guess Iām here or something.
2025-04-03 07:46:07.880 / 3llvfvcenns2k
But transparency sake, I should disclose that @galaxybunny.bsky.social placed me in this list for disagreeing with @ladydiabolique.bsky.social and having the audacity to have an opposing opinion to a random accountās without it being about her
2025-04-03 07:51:00.006 / 3llvg5y2vz22k
or making sure they knew I ruined a thousand+ dollar business deal.
SPOILER: I didnāt. Not have I done any of the things listed by my estimations except behave abhorrent. Thatās in the eye of the definite beholder.
2025-04-03 07:51:00.007 / 3llvg5yz7qc2k
Maybe she feels called out? I donāt know. I do know that Iām not an abuser, harasser, Nazi, exclusionist, truscum (genuinely had to look that one up due to it being bizarre Internet slingo), transmed, transphobe, transmisogynist, enbyphobic.
2025-04-03 16:54:15.584 / 3llwejfn52k2k
Iād love to see where I Iāve been any of those things with, you know, detailed evidence or arguments, but I already know that would make them appear manic and lacking credibility to their, at one time, *checks notes* ableist, sexist, and progressively racist admirers.
2025-04-03 16:54:15.585 / 3llwejgoclc2k
@skunkw0rxx.dev, if you want to identify exclusionists, or at the least fake āsafety, dignity, and inclusionā-warriors, you should probably start with @redlianak.bsky.social of nottherapyshow.com fame, especially if itās gonna involve me.
2025-04-03 17:41:23.143 / 3llwh5o75dc2k
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