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Ah yes, the framing. Did it really have anything to do with being trans when I called you manipulative and had already backed it up, and then further did so when you expected me to enforce *your* boundary, and then further did so when you used my alleged mental health symptoms I wasn’t experiencing
2025-04-05 08:07:27.471 / 3lm2hzapyus2b
to delegitimize what I was saying about you while working as a therapist (though not acting as one or mine at the time, but still having the social authority) and having a Master’s in #Counseling that apparently *didn’t* inform you how someone with my condition (that you share) would react to that?
2025-04-05 08:07:27.472 / 3lm2hzbsld22b
Did I ever say anything about you being trans before, during, or after other than I didn’t care and wasn’t questioning that you were a woman because you are?
2025-04-05 08:07:27.473 / 3lm2hzbspa22b
Likewise, was it simply framing to point out one of your many bitter ex-partners ( @vividfaegarden.com ) and her new girlfriend ( @hellscapewanderer.bsky.social ) were ableist, sexist, and racist
2025-04-05 08:07:27.474 / 3lm2hzbss5s2b
towards my white ass and my Latin-American husband because, it appears, we weren’t kowtowing to their claims of being the “main characters” of all trauma of all time (exaggeration) and showering her with praise and apologies?
2025-04-05 08:07:27.475 / 3lm2hzbz3dc2b
Or did it end up being backed up with all the things they deleted that showed all of that, all so patently ridiculous (such as blaming me for the consequences of their actions) I dared to simply mock it’s shameless cry bullying?
2025-04-05 08:07:27.476 / 3lm2hzbz5bs2b
Is it *not* a framing when someone conflates their situation with their commitment to different behavior and being a different person and then accuses me of erasing it and not letting her be what she wants to be because I kept telling people what she did literally a day earlier?
2025-04-05 08:07:27.477 / 3lm2hzbz7ac2b
Is it *not* framing when others are told I’m manic for making long threads (?) when they literally show they know nothing about me or my situation,
2025-04-05 08:07:27.478 / 3lm2hzbzb6s2b
or when a Peer Counselor ( @redlianak.bsky.social ) keeps suggesting I’m dangerously anti-social because I’m profoundly mentally ill (and my refusal to treat my illness, framed indeed as being a good person, caused the cancellation a game I had nothing to do with, *and I never refused to do*)
2025-04-05 08:07:27.479 / 3lm2hzbzd5c2b
because I *checks notes* called you manipulative with arguments why and you felt it was transphobic? Is it evidence when she defends you? Is it a framing when I talk about our last conversation that *did* cause me to disappear for a while (that’s right It wasn’t you)?
2025-04-05 08:07:27.480 / 3lm2hzc7w3c2b
Is it evidence of a lack of empathy when she quotes me, but only a framing when I point out that I was mocking her horrible treatment of me when I said that?
2025-04-05 08:07:27.481 / 3lm2hzc7xzs2b
It’s great that you felt what I said, that had nothing to do with you being trans was transphobic, sorry about your own feelings I guess, but that wasn’t my *intention* seeing as how it has *never come up* except as mentioned by you?
2025-04-05 08:07:27.482 / 3lm2hzca2xk2b
Is it very important context when it’s regarding you or @redlianak.bsky.social’s intentions and definitely fucking matters, but only framing when it’s mine? Or not mine?
2025-04-05 08:07:27.483 / 3lm2hzca5vc2b
Is it a fact when others say what my motivations are, but only framing when I state they’re inaccurate?
2025-04-05 08:07:27.484 / 3lm2hzcgkxs2b
When @vividfaegarden.com, @hellscapewanderer.bsky.social, and @redlianak.bsky.social claim things with no logic, no rhetoric, no evidence, or anything to back it up, is that a framing, or is that just fact because they say it?
2025-04-05 08:07:27.485 / 3lm2hzcgpu22b
Is it *not* framing when I back myself up with a lot of detail and it’s dismissed with a cutesy smirk as manic? Like, girl, come on. Are you serious? Are unsubstantiated accusations facts while articles of refutations framings?
2025-04-05 08:07:27.486 / 3lm2hzcngp22b
Is it that when it’s negative to you or you don’t like it it’s a framing, but when it’s the opposite it’s evidence?
2025-04-05 08:07:27.487 / 3lm2hzcnink2b
I don’t care if you’re women, trans women, men, furries, xenomorphs, or fuck all of anything, when I’m writing about you and what you’ve done, but it’s extremely important to you. I’ve *never* cared about that when it came to anybody, but suddenly I do when it’s you? I have internalized bigotry?
2025-04-05 08:07:27.488 / 3lm2hzcnkm22b
Ask anyone who’s ever actually talked to me for any real length of time (more than 5 years) except you can’t, because you don’t know who any them are besides my awful husband!
2025-04-05 08:07:27.489 / 3lm2hzcnllc2b
I smell a lack of argument. I smell odiferous vapors of magical emotional thinking. I gag at the stench of self-victimization over arguments neither @merrystarchild.bsky.social or I *ever* made.
2025-04-05 08:07:27.490 / 3lm2hzcnoj22b
Is it simply a framing, or a fact that I contributed to a dangerous situation because you, the one with the Master’s in #Counseling, were confused, felt berated, and so panicked that you stigmatized my mental illness as your last passive-aggression
2025-04-05 08:07:27.491 / 3lm2hzcu7ik2b
and deflection (almost as if you thought I’d freak out so bad I’d disappear because you’re *that* important) and never apologized?
2025-04-05 08:07:27.492 / 3lm2hzcucgc2b
I do know it’s a disingenuous framing by me to point out that I have dangers I have to face too from everything that’s happened, like stress from being ostracized, *abandoned* by friends as a Borderline (I did not leave the relationship),
2025-04-05 08:07:27.493 / 3lm2hzcuees2b
and even institutionalized by a corrupt system all over of a “Twitter beef,” as your highly transphobic ex-girlfriend called it. I know she’s highly transphobic, as well as sexist and racist, because
2025-04-05 08:07:27.494 / 3lm2hzcugdc2b
she and her girlfriend *also* accuse you of being manipulative, but to an even greater degree than I did!
2025-04-05 08:07:27.495 / 3lm2hzcuibs2b
Are you the only Borderline that can be traumatized and act compulsively due to abandonment *because* you’re trans, or do cisgender white males get what’s clearly a privilege too without being painted as psychotic?
2025-04-05 08:07:27.496 / 3lm2hzcujb22b
Do only important liberal white women on YouTube get to have stalkers and be harassed, or do cisgender white males get the privileges of victimhood too without being seen as dangerously anti-social?
2025-04-05 08:07:27.497 / 3lm2hzcul7k2b
Am I ever around on Mondays, or do I just existentially skip all the talk about treating all gender expressions fairly?
2025-04-05 08:07:27.498 / 3lm2hzcun622b
I know my grievances are just framings, nothing real, because no one seems to give it any notice at all, so it must be false.
2025-04-05 08:07:27.499 / 3lm2hzcuo5c2b
It’s just another gross fabricated framing against trans women perpetrated by a disgusting cisgender white male (who’s queer in case anyone’s forgotten) the type that disgusts you and makes you cry at the thought of people choosing them over you (blame @vividfaegarden.com for that one). Biased much?
2025-04-05 08:07:27.500 / 3lm2hzcup4k2b
You aren’t morally lucky or superior simply because you’re a trans liberal progressive! You don’t suffer more than anyone else in our positions might, and you aren’t more valuable or insightful due to it! Or is that a framing?
2025-04-05 08:07:27.501 / 3lm2hzd24x22b
There is no need for an upper class gender-nonconforming heterosexual white lady to explain inclusion or queerness to a guy that wants to dress up in a fursuit as his actual self all the time, played Mage: The Ascension in high school, purchased and read The Satanic Bible
2025-04-05 08:07:27.502 / 3lm2hzd26vk2b
and thought it was melodramatically ineffectual, taught himself programming from books at 7 because fuck all of anyone was going to help him, started having philosophical debates when he was 9 about shit he didn’t even necessarily believe in looking for holes,
2025-04-05 08:07:27.503 / 3lm2hzd2au22b
an old school gay ass furry that remembers TigerMUCK and Associated Student Bodies, sat in his house reading ASB having hope that somewhere out there life could really be like that maybe (1998),
2025-04-05 08:07:27.504 / 3lm2hzd2csk2b
used to fantasize that I could concentrate hard enough in my bed to transform me into a real life anthropomorph because I thought that would be my only chance at getting out of there, saw Howard The Duck and was inspired that maybe there was a place in the world for people like me,
2025-04-05 08:07:27.505 / 3lm2hzd2er22b
had a 40-year-old boyfriend at 18 who slept in a tent at RMNP that would eat dinner with him and his parents (my parents, run-on sentence) like it was nothing, ‘cause it was normal,
2025-04-05 08:07:27.506 / 3lm2hzd2gpk2b
has been a political-fringe Objectivist his *whole life* in a committed relationship for 20 years that’s had multiple threesomes (with no drama), would give handjobs to friends and my partner didn’t care,
2025-04-05 08:07:27.507 / 3lm2hzd2io22b
traveled across state lines to engage in a magical and affectionate three day bender of fetish sex in the partner’s college dorm room (when he, *I* here, should’ve been going but held a job as a fully licensed insurance agent), has never been dumped, wore a tail to school everyday,
2025-04-05 08:07:27.508 / 3lm2hzd2ojk2b
founded an online (but local) club for rejects of all walks of life with his best friend who lived in the trailer court with their broken and addicted family (talk about inclusion, even a couple jocks joined and this was before social media, 1997),
2025-04-05 08:07:27.509 / 3lm2hzd2qi22b
wrote a bizarre play that became legend among my friend group by how off beat and shocking it was and yet exactly like them, distributed my own underground community zine in the hallways,
2025-04-05 08:07:27.510 / 3lm2hzd2rhc2b
wrote a short story at 19 that made an adult librarian cry and confess she was raped because she thought I had been too due to the story capturing the emotional space so perfectly and I had to confess I wasn’t, suffered an emotionally neglectful alcoholic father until he died,
2025-04-05 08:07:27.511 / 3lm2hzd2tfs2b
discovered furries but quickly realized I hadn’t caught up with the fandom but that it was catching up to me, was kicked out of college, and even kicked out of the local furry group for being too weird and difficult, and much more, all before I was 23 in 2005.
2025-04-05 08:07:27.512 / 3lm2hzd2uf22b
My town had a population of about 1,800, and one day a guy in a makeshift killdozer decided to mow down the town hall, library, a couple houses, and the hardware store. It wasn’t easy.
2025-04-05 08:07:27.513 / 3lm2hzd2wdk2b
I was once almost hospitalized for telling my small town visiting psychiatrist I wanted to turn into a furry… and I brought illustrations!
You and @redlianak.bsky.social are going to venture to tell *me* what’s appropriate queer behavior?
Me!?
2025-04-05 08:07:27.514 / 3lm2hzd2yc22b
It is utterly unnecessary and arrogant for either of you to even presume just because you *checks notes* were called a bitch. “You” here is collective, and the last statement one of attitude.
2025-04-05 08:07:27.515 / 3lm2hzdbn6k2b
The horror! People have been telling me I’m the scum of the earth and I know no goodness, that I am evil incarnate, and that I should be put to death since I was a kid not because I’m gay, but due to what what I dare to think and say, pointing out this shit and the ravages of unearned guilt.
2025-04-05 08:07:27.516 / 3lm2hzdbp522b
You’re not unique.
2025-04-05 08:07:27.517 / 3lm2hzdbr3k2b
I’ve never been untrue to myself. I’ve never lied to myself about who I am. I’ve never subjugated myself to any group or bent to social pressure of any kind. I know who I am, what my will is, and what I need to do. I was born this way and have been this way from day one.
2025-04-05 08:07:27.518 / 3lm2hzdbt222b
I discovered nothing, I never “came out,” nobody dared bother me, I just -was-. *ahem* Was the erasure of my context in any of these situations a framing or a fact? Context I put right back in, to great reception I might add. What even are these words?
2025-04-05 08:07:27.519 / 3lm2hzdbuyk2b
Context and framing seem like sophisticated terms for simple things to be conflated together to sound more objective or complex than they are, like non-linearly. I only have a crappy small town high school diploma that I regret,
2025-04-05 08:07:27.520 / 3lm2hzdbwx22b
so please, tell me @ladydiabolique.bsky.social which one’s which? I clearly can’t figure it out and you seem to be the only person who ever fucking knows.
2025-04-05 08:07:27.521 / 3lm2hzdbzus2b
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